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Finally came out to someone in Real Life

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by stretching, Dec 22, 2016.

  1. stretching

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    I had never talked with anyone who i know in real life about my sexuality, ever. But finally the other day I emailed an old friend who I haven't seen in 15 years, but who i knew had left her husband for a woman, and told her that I was into women. Interestingly her response was that when we used to live in the same city and work together (15 years ago), she had always thought that i was gay. Geez! I wonder if everyone could see it except me?! I'm interested to tell others and see how other old friends react, but I'm not ready yet. It felt good to 'come out' to my first person. I still don't know what all this means for my marriage/family though... Sometimes I feel content just being out to myself, and other times I yearn and ache to be authentic and out in all aspects of my life. All in all I'm so happy to finally be on this journey towards honesty.
     
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    Heya!

    Congratulations! The first time you come out to someone else is almost always hard, but it gets easier! You have taken a huge step.

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    Congratulations (!)
     
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    Congrats, fam! Glad you had a good experience.
     
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    Congratulations!!! That's such an amazing feeling to have it out in the open, even just to one person, right?

    I have had those kinds of reactions from others as well, and i also wonder did everyone know but me? :slight_smile:
     
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    CONGRATS!

    And being out to yourself is the most imporant/difficult thing, I think. As long as you're accepting yourself and don't feel like you're hiding from yourself, then you're in a good place to continue going forward.
     
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    I did it about a month ago now. After years and years of fighting myself, I woke up one day and said to myself, its time to be authentic to myself, and my spouse. Telling her was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, by far, and took a few days of him-hawing around before the words crossed my lips. I felt great afterword's to finally have that lifted off my shoulders per say. Now it took a few weeks for the shock to wear off her, but as I write this today, I wouldn't take it back.
     
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    That is awesome, congrats!! Good luck on the next steps whatever you choose to do :slight_smile: