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I sorta kinda just cane out at work

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by baristajedi, Jan 5, 2017.

  1. baristajedi

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    So i have this issue that I'm really sick of editing my life, leaving out certain details which would indicate that I'm gay and separating from my husband.

    Today I told my close friend at work, the only one who knows all of this, and explained my discomfort in correcting everyone's understanding of me as straight and married to a guy.

    So she encouraged me to talk about things casually with her in earshot of other people. So I mentioned a date I had with a new girl and she asked me a few questions about her, then asked about how things are going with us all moving into separate flats. It was terrifying and freeing.


    So now that it has been set in motion, I'm going try to do the casual outing every few days or so.

    I feel good and a bit overwhelmed with emotion right now...

    :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:

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    Wish I could edit my title to have the right spelling....oy vey

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    And just for clarity, my close friend has known this for several months, what I told her today was the feeling that I need to come out
     
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    Congratulations, baristajedi! That took a lot of courage! I think it was a really cool way to Come Out in the workplace without making a big deal of it!:slight_smile:
     
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    And ps, my friend is awesome :slight_smile:

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    Thank you :icon_bigg
     
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    I have a huge smile right now reading that!
     
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    HEY GO YOU!!!! (*hug*) so great that you'd have a friend to set that up with you. I came out at work by blurting it out in response to the ignorance I was hearing after Orlando. all good though. and you are right, it is soooo freeing, like taking off a lead jacket.
     
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    Yay Barista!!!!! (*hug*)
     
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    Congratulations baristajedi - taking action is a good thing.
     
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    That's great! Living a life of honesty and openness is so much easier.

    When I came out at work, I told someone who I knew would tell others, and that's exactly what happened. It did make it easier that I didn't really need to tell a lot of people. Just tell the right person and everyone else will know soon enough.

    :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:
     
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    Congratulations, that's awesome!

    Everything is easier when you don't have to worry about people finding out. You did great!
     
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    Congratulations on starting to come out. It's scary and freeing all at the same time. You go and be your awesome self.
     
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    Thanks everyone!! (&&&)

    Lookingforme - she is s great friend, and she was actually almost as nervous as me, ha! We talked about it for most of the afternoon and finally blurted out the conversation :slight_smile:

    I'mgay - it's funny, the friend I was out to was not my friend at the time I came out... I actually thought she would be the kind of person to spread it around and I was hoping for that by telling her. But instead she took it in and listened and supported me so warmly, and then started opening up about things about herself. Since then we've become really close. She's such an amazing wonderful friend. And I wouldn't have known it if I hadn't shared this with her.
     
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    I'll bet that felt great! Way to go!

    *high five*

    Patrick
     
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    So happy for you!!
     
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    That's sooo sneaky, but super effective, I love it ! :slight_smile:
    That's a such a good friend :slight_smile: :eusa_clap
    Congratulations :grin: (&&&)
     
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    Thanks Patrick, bunnydee and warmembrace!! :kiss: