So I joined a LGBTQ meet up last night and now I have this anxiety about it. I think it's because other people can see what meetups you belong to. So I feel split saying to myself this is ridiculous, "why do you care what others think?". Is it because I don't really know what I think about all these feeling yet and have only really voice then on this site? I don't want to "come out" and then find out I'm not as gay as I thought. I want to explore my fantasies about being with a women, but I also have this nagging voice saying it's wrong to use people just to explore my sexuality.
Just be honest like you have been here. It is always best. You will hopefully find someone empathetic to your situation. I have a lesbian friend who loves helping women explore their sexuality. It might take awhile, but you will find someone like minded!
My advice is to just be honest. Also, if you want to explore your sexuality, the best bet is to find bicurious women who are in the same boat rather than fully out lesbians or bi women unless they are actually into that sort of thing. SOME lesbian/bi women are into it and even find it a turn-on, but a lot just aren't, so it can pose a risk. However, ALL bicurious women would be into it, so It's the safest bet.
You can set your setting to not display personal info so no one would know. Then when you go to the meetup event only people at the event know who you are. ---------- Post added 19th Jan 2017 at 05:35 PM ---------- added: definitely agree with other posts about being honest with the people at the meetups though. My suggestion is just because you say you are not out at all, and the setting will allow you to keep that part private.
