The person who comes up to me and says Q8ty3Rz is finely dressed. This implies to me I should listen to him. He goes on to say that Q8ty3Rz is an integral part of who I am. I say to myself, "like WTF" (what the fuck) I dont have a clue what this guy is talking about. He goes onto say that Q8ty3Rz is very valuable and will make me very happy and fulfilled. OK the guys a nut case. Wacko. The guy goes onto say if I spend tens of thousand of dollars in understanding Q8ty3Rz, I will achieve a full appreciation of Q8ty3Rz. I walk away from the guy. This fictitious scenario is me and the struggle I now face in dealing with my sexuality. OK I know I'm gay. No doubt about it. But because of abuse and shame during my early teen years I do not have a clue what it feels like to love and to bond with another person. Thus Q8ty3Rz which I have no clue what it means. People tell me to get therapy. Really? What will I get?
What will you get from therapy...After almost two years of therapy here are my thoughts. Someone to talk to that may have a different perspective on your thoughts. Realizing that you are not the only gay guy out there. Realizing that there is nothing wrong with being gay. Realizing that past abuses, emotional and physical don't have to define the rest of your life. Realizing that past abuses have happened to others, myself included. That there is nothing to be ashamed about. Help with self esteem. Help with self healing. To list a few. I hope it helps to convince you. Dean
How about this - you may actually get the ability to love and bond with another person. I order to get their, you might need to break yourself down. And then build yourself back up. Thats the path a therapist can provide guidance on.
Bingo! This is something I do not know how to do. Ya I've read about this type of approach. I'm 100% for therapy just have to find the right person. I've been to one therapist, he was like a car salesman, ~"of course I can do that" when in actuality he had little to no experience with my type of situation - sexuality.
It's not something you learn, it's something that you open yourself up to when your at peace with yourself.
