You guys have anything you enjoy doing that brings out the gay in you? In a fun, confident way I mean. Hanging out with my gay friends definitely items does it for me. As does hanging out with certain female friends. And going to brunch in general, which sounds cliche but whatever brunch is a gay national pass-time! Listening to pop music from the 80s also always makes me feel a bit gay, haha. Not sure why, but I genuinely get that feeling while listening. Been listening a lot lately!
In addition to what you have posted: Going to gay bars, clubs or other social type environments; Having meals with my gay friends; Watching gay movies; Attending functions in support of LGBT related non profit organizations; Meeting other LGBT folks when I travel etc etc etc
Well I'm just beginning to allow myself to feel this but I sure am having fun with it! So I like hanging out at this very LGBT friendly coffee shop. The other day this really romantic song came on, and I've been listening to the album non stop and the girl behind the counter started singing it to herself. And I had been eyeing her bc she is adorable and has that whole Jenny from the L Word vibe. So I was totally grinning, and then I caught her eye and gave her my most flirtatious smile. So yep, hanging out there is my little intro to feeling gay.
I play Pathfinder with 3 other people after scool, everyone in it is LGBT. We call the taple where we sit in the library the gayble.
Wake up in the morning and be me... And I second having sex, kissing and just being around my girlfriend I know what you mean though COS I have been searching for fun upbeat queer music. The most interesting current ones I found are THEEsatisfaction and Shamir. I listen to all my old queer music too. Spending time with my LGBT friends, going to LGBT events, watching LGBT films, going to gay pubs/cafes/clubs. I try to stay involved in the community as much as I can, running my group, working on LGBT awareness at work. I wear my pride bracelets and keep a photo of me and my partner together up on my desk so I can stay visible...
:lol: See I've avoided saying "sex" because I think its important to embrace that there's more to being gay than simply sex. Just something I've been thinking about though. ---------- Post added 24th Apr 2017 at 09:53 AM ---------- I love this!
While swimming my laps at the pool each morning im looking at the other male swimmers and seeing how good they look in their speedos
I go to online forums (such as this one) and read what others say about LGBTQ topics. I also listen to artists that are active/out in the community (current favorites are Girls like Girls by Hayley Kiyoko and basically everything by Troye Sivan (romantic or not I still adore his music)). Reading stories (usually fictional, and more often than not fanfiction) about healthy, same gender relationships, and generally hanging out with my real life, human(ish) friends, as most of them are at least bi.
I listen to music like Tegan and Sara, makes me feel good listening to music that resonates with me. They sing about girls which is refreshing because mainstream music is generally about male/female relationships.
I look in the mirror! Seriously, long before I had any understanding of it at all, I felt gay. Like, when I watched Lost in Space as a kid and couldn't take my eyes off of Will Robinson, who was close to my age. When I was excited to go to the hardware department at Sears because I liked the pink bathrooms in the plumbing department (yes, I am that old), When I played dolls with my sisters, or when we would do little plays and I generally ended up being the wicked queen. When I liked going to the public pool, not because I liked swimming, but because I would see naked guys in the locker room (and I was, like, 8 at the time, good God!). When I was a teenager and surreptitiously read books by women about how to please a guy and it never even registered that I was always thinking of giving, never receiving. If anything, I spent decades trying NOT to feel gay, because it was something that wasn't going to give me the bunch of kids and happily unremarkable family I wanted so badly. Once I started drifting out of the closet, the biggest joy was not having to feel like anything but myself, and not having to pretend I was someone I wasn't. I really don't need to feel gay. It's always been there and always will be. What makes me far more happier than "feeling gay" is feeling like ME, and not having to be anything else.
That's actually really inspiring! Love those words right there. Maybe what I'm feeling in those moments I described before was just natural and myself. I like framing the thought that way.
I second CameOutSwinging's statement. That is a really great way to thing about it Choirboy. I anticipate that when I come out, I won't change dramatically. I'll finally be able to be my real self. I can't wait to stop hiding and pretending. Keeping a secret seems more stressful than being gay will be. But who knows. I'm not there yet.
Hanging out with my LGBT friends, going to a romance movie (cuz I fall for both characters <3), and I have a playlist of songs that make me feel happy and gay at the same time XD
