So i have a bit of a situation and i could really use your opinions. Basically, i have a massive thing for my kids teacher. She's a lesbian herself and has a partner. We're friendly, tell each other personal stuff. She recently told me something that has lead me to believe she may have broken up with her partner, she is also having a really rough time right now from what she's told me. My question is, considering what she has told me, divulging stuff about her personal life and such, do you think it would be ok to casually say if she needed to talk, I'd be happy to grab a coffee or something, totally leaving the ball in her court, just as a nice gesture. I mean it with no intent to try and pick her up or try anything, but purely as a friend. She isn't out at school, but told me she wasn't straight and she knows I'm not. I don't want to come off sleazy or anything but I'm at a loss as to what to do? Any opinions would be greatly appreciated ✌
Hey, I think you can say if she wants to talk you could grab a coffee, that way it leaves it up to her whether she does or doesnt want to. She started the conversation by telling you personal stuff in the first place.
All I would say is proceed carefully, take care of yourself, and think about your personal boundaries, given the context in which you met. If she is going through a break up it might be worth waiting until she has dealt with all of that before diving in, to protect yourself from getting badly hurt...
offering coffee and a kind ear to a friend is never sleazy, unless you have ulterior motives. I've had times when I would have loved that.
Thank you all so much for the help. I'm very conscious of the circumstances and in no way plan on trying anything. I was just at a loss as to what to do because there was somebody, telling me they weren't feeling great and i felt really useless. If she were my friend in any other circumstance, i wouldn't hesitate to reach out but it's an awkward situation. I ended up doing as i said, she seemed grateful and said she might actually take me up on it. I jotted down my number and emphasized that it was with no expectation but that she knows she can reach out if she wants. I feel better for having done it. Thank you all!
