So many of us in the Late In Life forum mention how we feel we are going through a second puberty of sorts...I know I certainly feel that way at times! Anyway, I wanted to share this. It's simple and makes sense. I think many of us here could benefit from it as we make our way through this journey: through new relationships, through the coming out process, and just as 'rules' for general life. (Not sure where I printed it from, probably some facebook post.) 5 Strong Boundaries for Personal Relationships 1. I will not wait for anyone. 2. I will halt unequal relationships. 3. I will not idealize others. 4. I will operate from my truth. 5. I will assert against disrespect. Through life I have 100% broken everyone of these pieces of advice (and then broken them again!:bang. And I realized when reading this that not living by these has never led to anything good for me, never led to me feeling stronger. Rather, breaking these led me to a place of not feeling too good about myself deep in my heart, and to a place of weakness, a place of powerlessness. (Even if breaking them seemed 'easier' at the time!). And, at the late age of 49, I certainly try to put these in practice now... Anyway, seems to be good advice for EVERY relationship, romantic or otherwise. I especially like #4. Have a good day everyone!
Thank you Moonsparkle. I will make a note of that and try to make sure I carry out those things in all adult to adult relationships and contexts.
Just lately I feel like I have a 'feck' of attitude to a lot of people. I think these points you listed Moonsparkle can as you say be used in everyday life, not just relationships. This is a new feeling in me. I feel I have this new found power that gives me extra strength to say exactly what I think. Not necessarily being rude, but standing up for me. Even if I'm wrong, if it's what I'm feeling it's coming out, and if they don't like it, tough. Don't talk to me! I never was shy, but now... with my new found dyke energy. A force to be reckoned with. And this is coming through at work with some annoying colleagues. I simply do not care about their thoughts. I care about me. Love this list. I will be copying this too x
Thanks Moonsparkle for this! I will remember these and also try to put them into practice. jackiescutt17, I feel the same way! I like that, "new found dyke energy," it describes it perfectly.
Second puberty? OMG, I hope no one is going through that! Maybe people exprience a second adolescence.....:lol:
I feel like I am. As well as it being a hard time for anyone it is also very exciting. The way you change, feelings and what exciting things are in store. x
OTH-yes you are right. A second adolescence would be a more appropriate description of what we are experiencing! ( I'm just thinking back to stuff like prom--the teen angst, the drama, the high highs and low lows--OMG it is sort of the same thing 30 years later!! :eek:!) And Jackiescutt, I love the phrase 'new found dyke energy' too! And I will try to use my own to help me stay on track with the list of personal boundaries
That is a really good list. I am going to save this thread so I can reference it when I am ready to be in a relationship again.
