And so I suppose we what I've learned is that life never stop a being complicated

I had the appointment yesterday regarding my visa. It turns out I have 4 options, one of them is potentially encouraging but still a little uncertain at the moment.

The other 3 are pretty bleak, either involving remaining dependent on my ex, staying married and not moving on with my life for more than a year and just hoping he makes all the decisions i hope he would for our future; or else risking losing my ability to stay in the country because it's unlikely i would be successful...


That's the simplified version.


I'm still basically waiting to get more information about the most encouraging option, talk the process through with the attorney more. Things may work out that I can move out in 3 months, maybe, if im really really lucky. But it's also very possible I have to stay living with my ex for another year. But at least in that year I won't have to behave like his wife, we can be open about the separation but live together...

So.... that's the best option I have. The shorter time version sounds wonderful, the longer time it takes the more stressful it will be obviously.


And then there's the part where I have to go through the information with my ex, and just hope he doesn't start pushing to move or make different decisions than I think are best for our family.


So. That's my update I suppose.

---------- Post added 12th May 2017 at 02:09 AM ----------

Ugh my title is really annoyingly full of autocorrects