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Maybe it is my current relationship!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by LostInDaydreams, May 13, 2017.

  1. LostInDaydreams

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    Recently, my (male) "partner" told me that he thinks it's unusual that I'm not a natural 'homemaker'. He thinks most women are keen to do their partner's ironing, make them a packed lunch every day, make breakfast for them, etc.

    It's not that he doesn't want me to work full-time, but seems to think I should want to look after him too. He said all men just want to be looked after.

    I told him that he can iron his own shirts, and that I thought most women would say the same thing. He disagrees, and thinks most women would be happy to do the ironing.

    I don't find him attractive, which I've been putting down to questioning, but realistically, I don't think I'd find him attractive anyway! So, maybe it is my current relationship that's the problem!

    I don't think I can live with this for much longer. He's so patronising, always explains things unnecessarily, always thinks he knows best...

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    Oh dear that doesn't sound good. I think you are right that not all women would want to do that. He sounds very old fashioned in his views. What is stopping you leaving the relationship?
     
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    Good to hear! Thanks. :slight_smile:

    As for what's stopping me; I'm working at the moment, but it's not permanent, so wouldn't be able to financially support myself in the long-term. Also, we have a daughter, so moving in with parents isn't a practical option.
     
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    That's a shame. Do you think you will be able to secure something permenant?
     
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    I hope so! :slight_smile: I don't really enjoy being at home full-time, for months on end.