How long after the breakup of your marriage did you start dating? (assuming you dating wasn't the cause of the breakup of your marriage. ) When you'd been separated for a while? When you filed for divorce? When it was all completed? I'm just looking for people's experiences. I'm beginning to feel like I might be ready to start moving on.
I started dating when we separated, which was six months after coming out. Well, when I say dating I really mean hooking up. My first real date happened a couple of months after that.
I started dating rather quickly. In retrospect, I was not ready for a real relationship, but I was anxious to explore and start to figure things out.
we split in '13, and the divorce was only finalized in December last year. not a fun process. I still haven't dated but my friend is trying to set me up with a friend of hers this weekend. honestly in the beginning I was figuring out my sexuality and didn't want to bring someone into the mess that was my divorce. I think im ready to start now.
You should be separated and on the path towards divorce before dating (or more to the point have an understanding with your spouse that there's no longer monogamy in the marriage). An equally important factor to consider is where you are on the coming out high. After coming out, people experience a high because they have shared their secret with key people in their lives. In general it's best to wait until the high normalizes and thoughts of your sexuality don't dominate your thoughts. Most people ignore this advice and typically make poor decisions in a rush to explore their sexuality, myself included, which generally leads to short relationships based on poor choices. We live and learn.
