Want to Be Totally Out

I wish I could find that video of the women that was terrified of coming out due to the same reasons. It turned out once she came out the kids were fine, and really like her new girl friend. Late Bloomers is the name of the group she is from.

Have you seen her video?

 

Surely your kids are gonna find out anyway sooner or later? Best be honest, surely?

 

Your post is one that many of us here could have made...

Being out -- ALL THE FREAKING WAY OUT -- is awesome.

My kids, parents, friends have all been amazing! (only some negative response, its ok)

My life has changed so much, moreso how I feel about myself, my self confidence, the positive energy I have now in all my life.

I wish you well, Rose, it truly does get better.

THe youtube group and video I think Jeff is referring to is OutLateButGreat -- and I love Tracy's videos -- can't find the one Jeff refers to at the moment, but here's another one she made I like a lot

Mindful Living - YouTube

 

That sounds like a good idea. Give him some time when he doesn't necessarily have to face his friends every day to process it. Good luck Rose!

 

I'm going to say -- tell your kids sooner rather than later. And that having friends around him and being in the routine of school may well be better than sitting at home.

I told my kids months earlier than I had "planned." Guess what, everything in my head about "best time" -- was all in my head. My kids didn't react any differently at all than if I'd told them later. And I told my son's school and the community organizations he's a part of too, so there would be support if he needed it, if he wanted to talk to another adult.

all IMO of course ;-)

HUGS

 

Here is the video I was thinking about. I love her and the way she talks things through.

Married with Children.... And Gay. - YouTube

 

I feel the same way, Rose. My goal is to be out completely. It sounds easier than it is, but I'm slowly chipping away at it. Good for you to set a goal. I think NJ Pete makes a good point though. There is a never a good time or a bad time to come out. Just a time to.

 

Good luck Rose. Honesty is hard, this I know, and sometimes lying is necessary, but openness can bring resolution. I'm still trying to work that out myself

 

Great video. I love her analogy of being in a tall building with flames at your back and a ledge in front

 

Thanks Rose.
(*hug*)

 

Hi Rose,
It sounds like we might be in similar situations. I'm 39, two kids, married, and just started coming out a few months ago. I've been putting off the divorce, not because I don't want to be out and gay, but I think because it is so overwhelming thinking about the practical elements of living situation, finances, etc, and scary to think about hurting my kids with this news. My husband and I terrific friends and he has been supportive. The kids have no idea there is a problem.

Anyway, I'm looking for support and would love to offer the same to you, if you are interested.

Best of luck to you!