Are any of you worried about your spouses sexual self esteem after you are totally out? Trying to focus a little more on how husband is feeling/dealing w/things but don't think thats a topic he will discuss.
Yeah I've thought about this, though it probably plays out differently for men and women. I think realistically the hope is that they can understand that it's not about them at all. Might be good for him to talk to someone about it -- friend, therapist. It might be hard for him to talk to you about it.
There is no way to control, anticipate, and mitigate all the ramifications of coming out. I am not sure thinking or worrying about it helps. I know what we want to happen but I am pretty sure what you think isn't going to happen. In talking to my counsellor they reminded me you cannot affect how a person deals with news of this sort. ---------- Post added 2nd May 2013 at 01:24 PM ---------- All you can do is deal with it as it rolls out.
