Husband definitely going into anger stage of grief. Got the polite ice treatment when he got home from work.....Gee reminds me of MIL. Not that I don't understand his pain. After a shirt conversation this am I apologized to him for hurting him. To get thru this I know he needs to grieve and let himself experience all the emotions that go with our situation. Our roles have reversed. He cries. I don't. Think its because it will open too big of a well of pain right now I am not ready to deal with alone.
Since everyone said it was ok to vent & be needy...... Hate the ice treatment. And he knows it. Its not just quiet. Pretty much same as when his mother comes to our house. F.T.S.!!!!!!! Is it possible to ever have 2 good days in a row?
Yup, silent treatment sucks. Loud treatment sucks too. I get one and whale gets the other. So you are getting the frosty treatment which is the silent treatment with attitude. All you can do is monitor it and act as normal as possible. You be the even keel.
I'm following silence except for polite questions. A decade ago I would have confronted him. Thought he had outgrown the silent b.s tx when he's upset a few years ago. He might have a "good" excuse but would rather he vent his feelings. And the funny thing is my now sexually deprived husband used to withhold sex when mad. HA!
Breathing better now. Just thought I'd share. Done swearing....for now. Thanks for your support guys. Rose
So had big talk. He understands. I understand. Over. Done. No going back. No more ice tx. but also no more hugs. this feels like a readers digest divorce. Quick condensed. Few hours ago could not cry. not any more.
what now? Going on a me vacation for a few days. (planned for a few weeks) Nothing wild. Turns out it will be warmer where I'm coming from rather than where I am going to. ---------- Post added 3rd May 2013 at 09:33 PM ---------- Thanks Femmeme-
I think that's extremely good timing on the vacation. Time away, by yourself sounds like a great thing. Give yourself some space to dream and imagine your best possible life while you're there. <3
Thanks Y'all. In a really good mood now. I like me. Now just have to stay awake for drive to the airport.
