Hi Y'all -been wanting to ask for a while. For those 30 & up & waaay past puberty/teens.... Do you find that since coming out your umm frisky meter has been cranked up to high? (insert scarlet facial blush here)
Oh yeah. It's totally different because it was NEVER like this with guys. I thought there was something wrong with me all those years. Of course I was always attracted to women but that was "wrong" so it was all repressed. :icon_redf :lol: (!)
I have no sex drive, sorry to say but I'm at the beginning of the process. I just feel like sex is a huge mess and a big mistake and no I'm not a prude. I'm hoping for a big change this way.
I'm not out, but I sure have noticed a sharp rise in noticing men in public, and also, I think, a rise in sex drive. I frankly have mixed feelings. One part of me is amused: there is life in the old, creaking dinosaur yet! But it can also be irritating. I honestly feel like a teenager at times: strong desire, but I'm not in a position where I can even think about having a relationship. Not now, and maybe it'll never be viable.
This would be a long post if I cut n pasted all your posts to this one. Its not just a heightened umm desire :icon_redf but gosh I have such a new appreciation of women which sounds weird being a woman. How bout a happy dance: (!)(!)(!)(!)(!)
I used to lust after young guys but since coming out, I appreciate the beauty of young guys, but I'm lusting after good looking guys my age...
I find myself looking ALL the time now. Damn, there are some fine looking women out there. Yeah, the blush thing. Mmmmm hmmmm. :icon_redf
omg, i'm like a teenage boy. i walk around iwth my eyes popping out of my head constantly. CONSTANTLY!
When I initially started dating women, yes absolutely! Now that we are like an old married couple, I can't find any sex drive. I really wish I could because I'm afraid that our relationship is suffering from my lack of interest in sex these days.
A curious thing has happened since coming out to my wife : I am reading Joe Kort’s book “10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love”, so far I have just skimmed it because I was reading it clandestinely; now I am out I can take time with it. I saw a mention in the book about what your choice of porn said about you and suddenly realised, after 6 or 7 years secretly looking at gay porn that I didn’t even know specifically what sort of porn I was drawn to. Up until this week I was just looking at, and jacking off to men having sex with other men. I now find myself being very picky as to the kind of guys I like looking at. Up till now I have not really looked at still photos, it’s all been about action video clips. This may be down to the fact that streamed video viewing activity was easier to hide on my computer that 100s of photos of naked men so I didn’t bother downloading photos, but if I’m honest I don’t ever recall looking at still photos. After some serious “scientific research!!” looking at 1000s of photos from various web sites I have selected 100s that appeal to me, but I can’t say yet exactly what it is that I find attractive. I found that skimming the contact sheets of photos I could decide in less than ¼ second if I liked someone or not. I also found that I was more drawn to the guys face than his cock, and even more interestingly I found my choice included tattooed guys and hairy guys both of which I have never thought would have been my type. I also found that I like photos of guys kissing; this is especially appealing since I work with a 30” monitor on my PC so I can size the photo to make it life size. I suspect that my new found desire for still photos of guys is linked to the fact that I am now out to my wife and I can be myself for the first time and be attracted to guys rather than just the sex part. Sale Gay Guy
interesting question. i find most days to be a yes, and other days to be a no. but thats me. I have to take pills for lung problems so they cut back on the frisky meter, but most days yes!!!!
I know I don't fit the parameters required since I'm 20 yo, and neither have I come out to anyone besides me, but since I did, I completely realise i have always been drawn to men, but a thing I've been struggling with is the fact I seem to be drawn mainly to older men since I can remember, but well I'll have to wait and see what life is reserving for me.
Over the years I have seen a lot of friends go through the 'kid in a candy shop' phase, as I call it. To me it makes sense that when something has been repressed for so long it will go wild for a while when it is finally released.
Don't know if this is true. I'd like to hear opinions either way. But I've heard that Viagra is extremely popular among older gay men who relatively recently came out. Something about getting "caught up"...
