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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Rose27, May 24, 2013.

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  1. Rose27

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    He is suicidal. Then walks out. Total. Mind.fuck.
    Please tell me what to do.
     
    #1 Rose27, May 24, 2013
  2. June Cleaver

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    We need to know more details to give you good advise. June
     
    #2 June Cleaver, May 24, 2013
  3. Rose27

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    Thats all I got June. He chose not to get a lawyer. Not to get a job so he could get joint custody. State laws say basically he will lose everything. I spent my time & money fighting for his rights in our divorce.
     
    #3 Rose27, May 24, 2013
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    If he looked serious, or calm (which may mean he's made a decision), and you know him better than we do...you may need to call the police.
     
    #4 greatwhale, May 24, 2013
  5. Rose27

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    Yes.
    Fuck.
     
    #5 Rose27, May 24, 2013
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    Keep us posted!
     
    #6 greatwhale, May 24, 2013
  7. hawaiianflower

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    Oh no. Call the cops. It is better to be safe than sorry.
     
    #7 hawaiianflower, May 24, 2013
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    (*hug*)
     
    #8 Femmeme, May 24, 2013
  9. Rose27

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    thanks all. Hoping suicidal people don't take cell phones/wallet/jacket....
     
    #9 Rose27, May 24, 2013
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    You're probably right...are you able to call him?

    What a fucking guilt-trip he's taking out on you! I'm hoping for the best!

    Even if it isn't probable, the police would treat your calling them as a reasonable thing to do on your part, given that your husband is in a hazardous state of mind.
     
    #10 greatwhale, May 24, 2013
  11. Rose27

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    Dozed off for a bit...
    H- Still not home.
     
    #11 Rose27, May 25, 2013
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    Do you have anyway of contacting him, directly or indirectly through any of his family members?

    Surely, you must have some idea why he's feeling like this. Have you recently came out to him as gay?
     
    #12 Rexmond, May 25, 2013
  13. Rose27

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    He is home.
     
    #13 Rose27, May 25, 2013
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    Thank God he is safe, I am so glad your worry is over (*hug*)
     
    #14 Dublin Boy, May 25, 2013
  15. Rose27

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    Yes. Me too! If there is a next time I will insist on full custody.And mandatory therapy.
     
    #15 Rose27, May 25, 2013
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    wow, glad he came home, sorry you had to go through this. Hopefully he can find someone to talk to about this, a therapist or maybe a support group, or even if he could talk to someone in his situation, it's helped my wife a lot.

    Hope you're doing okay Rose. (*hug*)
     
    #16 EddyG, May 25, 2013
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    Really sorry for you Rose, like EddyG I think he really needs to talk to someone external to the situation. Hope this will not happen again... (*hug*)
     
    #17 Samson, May 25, 2013
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    Glad he came home. I wish all the best for you two, and that you can come to some sort of agreement. (*hug*)
     
    #18 Rexmond, May 25, 2013
  19. Rose27

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    He seems ok. Think his Dad talked to him. He will probably be moving in with his parents post divorce. He has pulled every emotional button/used every past pain in my life against my self esteem this week. so done with fighting for his rights in this divorce.
    He needs to find his balls.
     
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    I'm glad to hear he's OK Rose, I'm sure you want to throttle him...
     
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