Here's my dilemma, I have recently split up with my boyfriend (unrelated reasons) and I basically want a bit of fun with someone. For a few months now I have developed a friendship with this guy off my university course, quite attractive, cheeky personality e.t.c. I know he likes girls, but speaking to him he says he's never had a girlfriend and says he is an ass-hole to girls who try to get close to him. He knows I'm gay and always flirts with me saying stuff like 'you are a lot cuter when you smile' and so on and so fourth.. what does send the alarm bells ringing is when he says to me 'I'd shag you, granted I'd have to be a bit drunk but I would shag you' (he does say this with his cheeky charm, so its doesn't sound so seedy) In these past few months he has said that same phrase three times to me. More recently I had some one on one time with him. He always seems to raise the topic about me being gay, and talking asking about gay sex (I big it up and say its more exciting than having sex with women because its almost 'forbidden', men give amazing blowjobs e.t.c) he asked me about my past with girls and I admitted to having sex with women but it not being for me. He said maybe the right woman will come along one day for me. I replied if that's true then that means the right guy would come along for him. He responded with 'well to be honest I cant get an erection over a guy and ive kissed guy mates and there was nothing in it for me' To be honest the way in which he said it was almost kind of defensive but you never can really tell for sure. Anyway after that ramble (sorry guys ) I am really attracted to him but I was wondering if this sounds like he is pretty interested in trying something on with me (if so, how should I go about asking him) or if I should leave it be?
I think this guy just likes to be friendly, and i think you should not take it further, that might just complicate things. you could get into a conversation about whether he would do something with a guy just to experiment. but remember don't push it, make it funny so he doesnt get uncomfortable.
Hmm, I dunno. I've known 'straight' guys saying similar things, they're just incredibly tentative at first, although they tend to try to come across as comfortable as possible.
Hmm. I've not had the best experience of falling for a straight guy, having developed strong feelings for a straight friend, which took roughly 3 years to get over, but I'd say proceed with caution. Even if he's bi-curious, it's not going to help matters if you make the first move. If he makes the first move, well and good, go with it and see what happens. But otherwise, I'd say its better for him and better for you if you don't act on your attraction to him.
Sounds to me like you should leave it. I know what it's like to be in the post-breakup stage, I have been since January, your mind wanders a lot, hopes for something. In your case, if he's actually gay, let him come on to you, make the first move. Otherwise, it just sounds like he's just a teasing, friendly straight friend.
