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My 15 year old came out to me this morning

Discussion in 'For Parents and Family Members of LGBT People' started by bromom, Oct 22, 2014.

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  1. bromom

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    Hi! As stated my son came out to me this morning, before I went to work, I suspect he did this as he knew I was leaving, and he was to, and he didn't want to talk to much about it. Either way, I told him I loved him, hugged him and I am so proud of him. We are a very open minded family, and I wasn't surprised when he told me. I just want to make sure I handle it well from now on. I don't want to make to big or to little of a deal out of it. I know it took a lot of courage to do that. I imagine we will talk more about it tonight. I will also note that he has physical disability, that is moderate, but he still gets around and is otherwise normal. I only note this, as he is definitely not a stranger to adversity. Thanks!!
    I am just so proud.
     
    #1 bromom, Oct 22, 2014
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    You sound like an amazing and supportive mom. Let him set the tone and pace for any conversations and you will be fine :slight_smile:
     
    #2 Chip, Oct 22, 2014
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    You seem like a great mom! Seems like your son is going to have a much better time then I am :dry:
     
    #3 FancyGummy, Oct 22, 2014
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    Thanks you so much! I have been reading alot on, here, and it just is super helpful. Waat a kind community :slight_smile:
     
    #4 bromom, Oct 22, 2014
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    What a great mother you are! :grin: I hope that you can sit down and talk to your son one day. Try to be as supportive as you can and let him know what challenges he might face in the real world (as he gets older of course) and that you can be there to help and support him every step of the way :slight_smile:.
     
    #5 Candace, Oct 22, 2014
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    You are a great mom :slight_smile:
    Just talk normally with him and be supportative
     
    #6 Ammi, Oct 22, 2014
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    I'm glad your son had the courage to tell you. That takes a whole lot of guts for any kid to do. I would definitely say to let him set the tone of conversation, but I would also say that if you guys start on the subject, it might be a good idea to find out who else knows and whether or not he's taken any shit about it. That way, you're better prepared if there are issues in the future. It seems like your son would be able to deal with other people seeing as he told you so easily, but sometimes the world can be cruel, especially to people who are different.

    I wish you and him the best of luck! Tell him he's got a whole online community rooting for him.
     
    #7 SwimScotty, Oct 22, 2014
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    Wow, this is sure encouraging to hear! I'm so glad that you shared here. I'll be keeping good thoughts for you as you continue to be an encouragement and support to your son. :slight_smile:
     
    #8 DarkestDream, Oct 22, 2014
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    I don't know you, but I'm very proud of you.

    Reassurance and support. If your approach is guided by those two words you'll not go far wrong. Just keep doing what you have already done and use Empty Closets as a forum for extra support and information. You can learn a lot by reading these message boards.

    Hope you will keep us updated. :slight_smile:
     
    #9 PatrickUK, Oct 23, 2014
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    You are an amazing mom and you shall never forget that.

    You've done a great thing supporting your son and I hope this continues on! :grin:
     
    #10 Vampire, Oct 23, 2014
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    I wish my mother had been as open-minded as you! You're definitely on the right track, this is a fantastic place to get support when you (or your son) need it.
     
    #11 Pluie, Oct 23, 2014
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    you are fantastic person and your son is lucky to have you as his mom
     
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    You're an awesome mom. Why can't every mom be like you? Just keep being supportive of him. It makes a difference to him, even if you can't see it.:eusa_clap
     
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    You did fine. Just go on with being a parent and like nothing changed, because it did not, and your good to go.
     
    #15 Lipstick Leuger, Oct 24, 2014
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    Fantastic! Wish you were my mom... Just kidding! That would be creepy! But nice job, anyways!
     
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    That is wonderful, I also have a physical disability I was born with and I think it's why my own mum is so supportive of me.. Cause she has had the strength to deal with so much in my life and I guess to her, my sexuality is nothing compared to what other things I have and she as my mother has been through.. It's good to have that kind of supportive and loving attitude towards your son.
     
    #17 Blossom85, Oct 24, 2014
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    You're a good person and a great mother. Good on you. I just hope that he remains open and honest to you because as a gay person in his adolescence, I hide behind a wall facade of jokes and false confidence, as coming out of the closet is scary.

    The heaven's smile upon your son and you, keep it up. c:
     
    #18 Azrael, Oct 25, 2014
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    Such a great mother! I wish there were more parents like you out there!
     
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    You are a wonderful mother, and obviously your son trusts you very much if he came out in his teens.
     
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