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Discussion in 'For Parents and Family Members of LGBT People' started by Checkmate28, Jun 23, 2015.

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  1. Checkmate28

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    Hi. My 17-year-old son recently told his father and I that he is gay. We are very accepting and supportive of who he is and his choices, and thankfully have a trusting and honest relationship where we can talk about everything, and often do.

    He and I have spoken about safe sex, condoms, ways to safely explore his sexuality, the dangers of online connections and so on. However, now we are in a place that I don't know how to approach.

    He has recently connected on Twitter with a bunch of young, gay men who associate themselves with foxes. They have nicknames, avatars, seek out fur suits and even conventions, as far as I can tell. At one point I used to see his Twitter messages but after I asked him about this, he blocked me. As I expected he would... I would have done the same thing.

    Today he left his laptop open on his bed and I see that he has found a site of cartoon fox porn... oral sex, anal sex and group sex. It is very graphic.

    I'm not sure what to say or do about this and I'm concerned. Do I say nothing? Is this just a phase that will pass?

    Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.
     
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    Well...um ahaha....I um would say wow!

    I think it might just be a fetish um if you must talk to him about it I would suggest you let him off gently. I don't think you should say anything though. I can't say if it's a phase but then again I'm not a fetish expert.

    Good luck. :slight_smile:
     
  3. Fallingdown7

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    Well, at least It's cartoony. I don't think he has an actual thing for animals, but is possibly just curious about the furry thing?
     
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    I would say nothing. It sounds like your son has connected with a community called furries (which, I feel the need to say, is not an inherently sexual community).

    I would say nothing to him, especially since this is something that he seems sexually interested in. I personally see nothing coming from a conversation about it, except for a great deal of embarassment on both ends.

    This could be a phase and it could not be. Right now it doesn't sound like it's hurting anybody. Your son is doing nothing illegal, and as long as he doesn't seem to be distressed by it, I see no reason to bring it up.
     
  5. Gandee

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    Yeah, I wouldn't worry. I myself watched those stuffs once. They could be quite hot...but I prefer my men human.

    But, I wonder if there's tactful way to remind your son to be more careful with his belongings? :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Hello.

    It sounds like your son has found the Furry fandom

    The furry fandom is an interesting and rather open place ( I know because I'm a furry myself )

    The largest part of the fandom isn't about sexual things ( though a certain subsection can get there )

    Just because you found this on your son's computer doesn't necessarily mean what you think given that a lot of furries have gotten into the habit of looking at the material for chuckles ( I know quite a few who do )

    However, that isn't a reason not to brush it off and assume he isn't either.

    Like I said before the furry fandom is very open and accepting, and a lot of people find it a safe space to explore certain aspects of their sexuality in an environment where they won't be judged.

    You don't have anything to worry about if you're thinking that since their animal like he might be drifting in the direction of animals. Furries are not into that.

    I like to think of furries as a sort of metaphor.

    They each embody certain aspects of people and it's a way a lot of people express themselves and others use the fandom as a means of being who they fantasize about being themselves.

    Personally I would maybe mention something about taking better precautions with privacy and then say you're willing to talk if your son wants, but if you try to force that conversation on him it'll just make a really awkward moment for you both. ^^"
     
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    Completely agree with Simple Thoughts. The furry fandom is not inherently sexual, and most of us are completely turned away by that kind of stuff, called "Yiff". Furries like to associate ourselves with animals, and draw them, in a non sexual manner The reason people think of us as all sexual deviants is because of the aforementioned "Yiff". Now granted, there is not really anything wrong with his liking of it, and most people who watch it quickly stop. There is a lot more out there to the fandom than porn. More than anything, it will hopefully be a phase, but remember, fetishes really don't define a person. Even if he never stops watching it than he can still be a fantastic person.
     
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    I also agree completely with Simple Thoughts.

    Most of people that enjoy Yiff (the sexual part of the furry fandom) don't want to engage in sexual acts with real animals. Yiff is a different thing, it is a fantasy and fetish and that's it.

    @Posthuman666: I don't understand why you say:
    Why hopefully it will be a phase? As you said, there is nothing wrong with it, and i don't see any reason to think about Yiff like the "corrupted, pervert part of the furry community".

    Yiff isn't related to real sexual acts. Real animals and anthropomorphized animals/creatures in cartoons are different things. It doesn't hurt anyone (humans or animals) and the part of the community that likes shouldn't be seen as "the corrupted, dark part" of the fandom.

    That said, i think it is important to remember that the furry fandom doesn't limit itself to Yiff, and it is much bigger than that. But Yiff is still a part of it, and that's totally ok.

    Hugs to all
     
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    Your son is in the Furry Fandom most likely. What he is looking at is YIFF. My friend is a furry but I myself am not.

    Maybe you should ask him about his interests and see if he mentions anything?
     
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    I agree,I suppose I said that a little wrong. What I meant to say is that there is nothing wrong with it, but that if her son is unhealthily looking at it then hopefully he will take things down a notch.

    All in all, yiff isn't for everybody, but if you like it thats cool. There is nothing wrong with your son, OP.
     
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    I'm not a furry, but I love browsing sites for furry fandom and art occasionally (male-male, mostly). It has nothing to do with bestiality, a common misconception, but a way to escape reality, engage your creative side, and find like minded individuals.

    Would your reaction be any different if it involved actual people, or illustrated humans? It's really not a reason for concern, aside from possibly meeting predators, but that happens any time social networking is involved.

    Privacy might be the bigger issue here!
     
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    Hello all,

    Thank you for taking the time to respond and help me understand my son's journey. It was a shock to come across the images on his laptop but I have a better grasp of the community now. To clarify, I wasn't concerned that he was sexually attracted to animals as much as I was confused by his choice of pornography.

    Again, I appreciate the insight.

    Be well.
     
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    Yup, thanks for clarifying :grin:

    And gravechild brings an important point, about privacy. Of course, it is totally normal for you, as a mother, to be worried about your son, and we are happy to help, but privacy should also be important, especially considering that he is 17.
     
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    Hi,

    I appreciate the sentiment. Please know that I wasn't snooping, nor would I... there's items in my bedroom that I wouldn't want my son to see either. :slight_smile:

    It was the full-screen image that caught my eye.

    Again, thanks to all for taking the time to share your thoughts. I appreciate the insight.
     
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    What the others said, furry porn does not equal wanting to have sex with animals.

    Furry porn is a very basic artistic depiction of sexual desire being seen as "animalistic."
    This isn't a new sentiment or anything specific to furries, even. This is a commonly expressed idea in everything from ancient literature (Epic of Gilgamesh) to contemporary pop music (Animals.)

    It shouldn't shock you, is what I'm saying. It ain't even so much of a fetish as it is a sexual "archetype" which I'd say is pretty conventional when it comes to the way we humans look at sex as something "wild" which can't operate in our typically vanilla, civilized social sphere.
     
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    If you are going to say anything, I'd recommend leaving it as a simple might want to close out of it when you're done kind of thing.
     
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    Well I hope that what we said was helpful :slight_smile:
     
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    He may of just been watching to see what it was all about if he had heard of it from somewhere, or he might of just found it funny. My ex boyfriends friend used to watch weird porn videos (Like people dressed in simpsons costumes etc) just to laugh at it and would try to get other friends to watch it. Not personally my choice of humor but hey!

    Or maybe he was watching it because he likes it. Who knows. He's young, he'll probably watch every sort of porn there is to be watched, it's the age of the internet lol
    Unfortunate for you that you had to notice your sons porn though haha
     
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    I'd say it's most likely just a young curious mind. If it turns to obsession, then it's time for professional help.
     
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    I doubt he's actually into beastiality. He probably was just watching it as a joke. He could also be as some have said, into the whole furry culture. I think a furry is a party where everybody dresses up like an animal of some kind, and then hook up with someone there. Since they are wearing the furry outfit, nobody knows who they are going home with or what gender they are. I think that's what a furry is, but I'm not 100% sure.
     
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