So Im a 17 year old male, and Im bisexual. When i was only 3 years old my mom and dad split up because my dad is gay. I live with my dad and his partner and my sister. My mom lives with her boyfriend 2 hours away and she visits lots. There was never any tension between my mom and dad, they are still friends. My question is that if it is normal for me to be bisexual and my dad to be gay. I came out 4 months ago and obviously everyone is ok with it. But i was scared because i did not want people to think (especially religious) that my turned me bi or something. That's not true. But is is normal to have 2 or more people in a family that are LGBT. My sister is 100 percent straight and has been with her boyfriend for three years. I think it is just a coincidence. but i want peoples thoughts. Thank you.
That's normal. I mean I don't know much about how genes work when it comes to this stuff, but the orientations of your family members don't validate/invalidate how you feel you are. I mean, there are completely gay people who come from completely straight families and vise versa. In fact I have a friend and both of his biological parents were gay and he is gay too, but again two cis, straight parents can have a gay/bi/trans kid and a straight kid as well. Anything's really possible here. I guess I don't entirely understand your question but traits like being gay/bi don't have to be in both parents for their kid to be gay. And your dad didn't influence you to be bi. You're bi simply because you were born that way and that's the way you are.
Yes thank you, i think it is partly genetic but also hormonal stuff in the womb, i know that i didnt choose to be bi, its just who i am
I understand your feelings. I knew at 3 or 4 years old that girls and boys were cute. At 33 learned my father is Transgender. I don't worry I'm wrong for any reason. Be happy with you and your feelings and that is all that matters.
All combinations are normal. Some seem to follow patterns and some are a little surprising. But since it's normal to have all the different combinations, do the best you can with your circumstances, ignore what people might think (not so easy at times), and be whomever you want to be.
Absolutely normal. Five person family - dad is gay, mom is bi/pan. Kid #1 is trans/bi, kid #2 is straight (possibly heteroflexible), kid #3 is asexual. We're a rainbow and we embrace it. We didn't "turn" our kids - in fact, Dad only came out last year, and for the most part, kids don't know I'm bi. So no influence there at all. It is what it is.
Sexuality, as far as we know, is not genetic or passed on, but certain conditions (like being a the last male born into a family of predominantly males) can make you more likely to be gay. I would chalk your sexuality - and your dad's -up to mere coincidence. If anyone tells you that your sexuality was influenced by your father, you tell them to F off. The only influence your father had was making it easier to come out as bi to a fellow LGBT person.
Oh sure! I remember seeing on YouTube there were 2 brothers and there mom in the car and they were talking about there dad who was gay and the younger brother was also talking about his struggles as being gay. Roseanne Barr has a gay brother and a gay sister. I once heard of a catholic family of 8 kids 4 boys and 4 girls. 3 of the sons were gay and 1 daughter was a lesbian. I heard the parents weren't super crazy about it but later came around. Also I'm not sure if it's true or not but one girl on this one site was talking about how she was a lesbian and all 3 of her sisters were too. Also I heard of one story with a family of 7 boys and apparently they were all gay. I also heard of a bi girl whose brother and mother were gay and her cat was bi! Also people on ec have gay family members. One gay mom posted a thread she had 4 kids and her youngest son turned out to be gay! Yuricore also has lesbian aunts! Heck I could have some gay people in my family as well! So yea your situation is pretty normal!
From doing extensive research in to this as I am gay and my identical twin brother is bi, I have come down to the conclusion that it is genetic. Although I'm not sure where we got it from. I found gay porn on my dad's computer before but I'm not jumping to any conclusions as porn means nothing. I hope you found your answer. Good luck in ur future ahead.
I can agree with that. As Gay1234(my twin bro) said, he's gay and I am bisexual so that is hardly a coincidence. If my brother wasn't gay, chances are I would be straight but I don't care, I love being bisexual(some guys are just too hot to not be attracted to ) I am 50/50 bisexual and this is possibly credit to my genes being relatively the same to my bro so I am coming to that conclusion also
I have an uncle and two aunts on my mom's side that are gay, and of the grandkids, I'm gay, and I have three cousins that are bi. On my dad's side, I have one cousin who's gay, so 2 out of the 9 grandchildren on my dad's side are gay. It runs in the family.
I dont know if it's a matter of genetics but certainly the fact that some other family members are not straight and the family is cool about it, increases the chances for someone to come out. So in the end it seems that there are families with lots of queer people but I believe the reason is that people are less afraid of coming out or more open to question their own sexuality
I'm a strong believer in the idea that sexuality is fluid and everyone lies somewhere on the spectrum. I think, realistically, no one is 100% gay or straight unless they have had some influence, be it internal or external, to convince them that way. Being strictly one or the other, to me, is the equivalent of the whole "cooties" thing. People can lie extremely close to either end of the spectrum, but I think even that is truly rare. And my definition of that may be different from someone else's. Anyway, I'm rambling. I don't think having a gay dad made you bi, perhaps it influenced you to accept your being bisexual easier and to keep an open mind, but in the end we are who we are. I think, regardless, you would've ended up with the same result.
totally normal, im gay and my cousin is a lesbian (although nobody within my family except my sister knows im gay)
I've always felt broken because I don't know anyone gay or bi other than a friend's mom who never talked about it (until I met my girlfriend). My parents and brother are 100% straight. I think being gay (or bi) is something you have to decide for yourself. Even if you do have a gay family member you still have decide for yourself.
You want proof that the queerness has nothing to do with family, take me. I come from 3 generations of straight, Catholic Italians. I've always been the weird one of the family, but now I'm just the sore thumb I guess.
It depends on the family I guess. I have 26 first cousins and probably 15 second cousins on my moms side, and as far as I know, I am the only gay one.
it is a puzzling one, my cousins a lesbian but thats the only other person in my family (that i know of) thats something other than straight
