15 yr old son told me he is bisexual

I would wait for him to talk to you again. If he needs support, let him know you'll be there. Thank you for being a supportive Mom

 

You are an awesome mom! You're doing just fine. Knowing you will love and support him no matter what is all he needs right now. Way to go!

You might suggest he join us here on EC as well.

 

Wow you are an amazing Mum. I am sure with you are his Mum your son will be great

 

I agree with Loli21 that you should just wait. The fact that he told you as much as he about his sexual preference shows how comfortable he is talking to you. But talking to parents about anything sexual, let alone telling them that you are not heterosexual is really difficult. Sexual preference is a very personal and private thing. He exposed a very vulnerable part of himself just to tell you what he did.

He may very well be comfortable enough with his sexual identity that he was ready to just let you know. Or he may still be exploring it for himself, but felt comfortable enough letting you know what he thinking/what’s going on in his very personal life. (As LGBTQ people go through the journey of self-discovery of their sexual identity, many become distant from their parents and siblings while they explore who they are until the point –which some never reach – that they Come Out to their family members.) However, this is a journey you can’t accompany him on. He has to proceed at his own pace, however long that takes. You are right that pushing the issue would most likely lead to alienating him at least to the degree that he may no longer feel comfortable talking to you about the subject. You can only support him with your unconditional love and be there for him when he needs you. Right now, it definitely sounds like he will come to you if he encounters any significant hurdles.

If you want to understand Bisexuality better, I’d recommend looking up “The Bisexual Index” online. It’s one of several good resources out there. You might want to be cautious not to let him know that you are educating yourself on the issue right now (I don’t know him, so I don’t know how he’d take it), but if he ends up coming to you with questions, you’ll already have a better understanding and maybe be able to direct him to some resources he may not yet have found for himself.

Thanks for being such an open and caring parent. Best of luck to you and your entire family!

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That's the perfect attitude to have on this, Eric's Mom. As I said this is a very personal and private thing. Respecting his privacy is paramount if you don't want to potentially drive a wedge between you.

You're doing great!

 

Thanks, Chiroptera!:icon_bigg

 

You're my new favorite mom...
I don't know if you know how lucky your son is to have a parent who supports him like that- a lot of parents are nowhere near that supportive. So thank you for being awesome!

As for your question- If you can find a way to bring it up without being awkward, I'd try that. But also just bring up some LGBT rights issue in casual conversation and then mentioning how you can't believe that people are so mean and hurtful and why anyone would ever be like that...

Just subtle hints at it work too.

 

The only thing I can tell is that if you are the type of annoying mom who wants to pair off their kids constantly (don't be ashamed, most moms do that) you could keep it gender neutral, like asking if he's met some hot person instead of saying hot girl ^^ Otherwise I like your reaction, you're doing a great job as a parent.

 

I'd like to echo the comments of other members and say how nice it is to hear from parents like you, who support their kids regardless of sexual orientation.

You may find it helpful to check out the PFLAG website. PFLAG is an organisation that offers advice and support to parents and relatives of LGBT people. They have some good resources on their website and may even have a local chapter near to where you live.

You seem to be doing all of the right things and your positive reaction will have meant so much to him.

 

If neither of you seem to care about his sexuality just leave it at that. You already know the obvious not to blab about his sexuality unless he tells you it's okay to. No need to bring it back up unless you think he's worried about something pertaining to his sexuality. You let him know that you're there for him and that's all he most likely needs.

*slow clap* *clap gets louder* Your Mother of The Year