just found out my brother is gay - need advice!

welcome to ec,

dont tell his parents because he should do that.

ask any questions you want here.

 

If he is 14 he is old enough to come onto this site himself That way he can ask any and all questions himself and wont need to rely only on you for support.

As for what you should do, i would just tell him "I may not fully understand or get everything that is going on with you, but i love you so much and fully accept whatever it is you are. I will always be here to listen and comfort you" not word for word, but along those lines

 

Interduse him to EC...maybe this website can help him cop with his sexuality...ill help him cause i know exactly how it feels to be scared about the sexuality i choose at a young age...so he has soeone he can relate to!

 

First, don't tell the parents. You can offer to be there with him when he does it, or to help him with planning it, but don't take it on yourself to do it for him.

The best you can do is put yourself out there, make sure he knows that he can talk to you without you revealing his secrets or criticizing him. I can vouch for the younger people and say he's probably certain about his sexuality, but he still needs someone he can talk to without boundaries. You can show him EC if you want, but he may not feel comfortable trying to be honest and open on a website his sibling is a part of.

 

Yeah please, show him this site, that way we can all help him directly. It's best that way

And PLEASE, DO NOT tell his parents...that would only mess up the relationship between you two. He is trusting you with his biggest secret. You can't break that trust by telling ANYONE. He will have to come to it on his own terms.

 

Just going to add in...

Dont worry guys, her first post had "i'm not going to tell our parents for him because its something he needs to do himself when he's ready." in it, so shes not about to scream it from the rooftop im sure

 

id also like to point out that im 14 and i came out to everyone in the last few months.

so im in almost the same boat as him.

 

even better...you know what its like then...and did this site help you?

 

wellcome and its good your bro was able to come out to you i agree with others he has to tell your parents its an important thing and also introduce him here it will help him its really helped me enjoy it here

 

yes. somethings i found out for myself.

 

even better!!!

 

nova............ Your brother is very lucky to have a sister like you! I can tell from your post that you are going to love and accept your brother for who he is. He has a great ali in you!

I would simply tell your brother that you will be by his side when he feels like the time is right to tell your parents. I know its a hard secret to keep, but it will mean the world to him to know he can trust you.

You can learn more about sexual orientation yourself by doing some reading. It will help your brother when he does come out if you have all the facts. PM me if you need some help with resources.

 

Hi you should tell him about EC it's helped me a lot theres tons of people here to help him and have felt the same way.I love EC maybe he would to.

 

You're like the best sister in the world and firstly should be proud of yourself for supporting him.

I think it's important to let him tell your parents himself, that's a good idea.

I think that you can support him just by letting him know he can talk to you about anything and maybe you could talk about your experience(s) in coming out etc.

Yeah, I agree with you that it's really hard to know 100% what he's going through I suggest reading some resources (which as becky has already said, she can provide you with) and maybe if you try to remember how you felt at the time he's going through now it might help to associate better. what you've done so far is great though

 

just be there with him be supportive and try to help along the way.