My son told me he is bisexual...

Hi. I'm new to all of this. Im looking for advice and kind support.
My 16 yr old son told me a few years ago that he was bisexual, it came out of no where he just walked up to me saying mom I'm bisexual. I honestly believed at the time he didn't fully understand what he was stating. We talked, I was hoping I was being supportive and understanding. I told him that he doesn't need to label himself right now if there was any uncertainty. Also, sadly I had to let him know to be careful on who he tells as we live in a small community of less than 800 people who are more on the old school side. Fast forward to today....my son has stayed firm that he's bisexual. No matter what I love my son and support him in every way. He came to me yesterday and told me he was dating someone (just started) and it was his friend who is ftm trans transitioning. I was a little taken back, I just wasn't expecting it I guess. I said really? Ok, really? Lol not my finest mom moment. My son told me he liked his friend for a while now and that he asked my son out and now they are dating. I don't know anyone who could advise me on this. My son has never dated or talked about having a crush on anyone. I wonder if he is truly sure or just curious? I'm also a little worried about letting his step dad know as he is not tolerant or supportive of anything beyond white and straight and the family though appear supportive of LGBTQ I think it's more so as long as it's not actually in front of them. I talked to my mom, figured she would be the supportive understanding person. But she made a comment of why? He can't know for sure? Does he know he is at higher risk of aids! My jaw dropped, I had to correct her and she just shook her head and walked away. I feel that my son and I will be alone for this next step in his life. I'm just looking for advice, support any comment that could help us along the way. Thank you.

 

Thank you all for your wonderful comments. My son means the world to me I just want him to be safe, healthy and happy. He's been through so much in his young life, so many obstacles, I can only hope that this new journey fills him with happiness....he deserves it.

I had to laugh and joke with him a little today. He told me when him and his boyfriend said bye at the end of the day they had the awkward hug moment lol. I told him that's nothing wait for the first kiss just don't slobber no one likes that lol. I get the omg mom look along with seriously mom? But he smiled while shaking his head at me. I'm glad he feels comfortable enough to talk to me. I know it couldn't of been easy.

And for protection...definitely. I already mentioned that to him, think I embarrassed him a little. But girl or boy, got to be safe. I told him sex is a serious step in any relationship and you need to be responsible about it.

 

I understand that, when I told him that he was 12 or 13 at the time...he is now 16. Kids out at the small school he was in are a lot like their parents. I just didn't want him to have more of a hard time in school then he already had. He had very few friends, bullied over the years.

Last year he changed schools, longer to get there but it was for the best. Now he has friends, doing well academically. He has come out to one friend out here that he has and all his friends in his new school. His new school has a large LGBTQ support and a zero tolerance policy.

---------- Post added 16th Feb 2017 at 09:16 PM ----------

Thank you very much. To hear that even from strangers means a lot. Your comment and the comments I've read thus far warms me.

---------- Post added 16th Feb 2017 at 09:25 PM ----------

Thank you very much. It means a lot to me hearing that, even from strangers. Your comment and others I've received warms me. I was looking for something when I joined this site, support/advice I wasn't entirely sure. Sometime between last night and tonight something feels lifted. im still a little worried about what may lay ahead for my son, but I know it will turn out ok.