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14 year old brother quickly closes something on laptop

Discussion in 'For Parents and Family Members of LGBT People' started by sonic1337111, Feb 22, 2017.

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  1. sonic1337111

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    In short it is what it says up there but he only does it when i go into his room for one of 3 things: Tell him a joke, Ask if he wants to see something funny or i go in there to watch a DVD (his room has the only DVD player in the house apart from our PC's but i prefer watching DVD's on a TV) so i'm wondering three things: Should I give him the talk about the birds and the bees or should i let my mum do that, ask why he keeps closing something on his laptop or just leave it and he says he's asexual.
     
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    The title's meant to be "14 year old brother quickly closes something on laptop"
     
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    I wouldn't rush things if I were you, especially since there are things you can want others not to see that aren't porn (like conversations with friends etc). If you ask what it is, it's gonna be awkward, or maybe less than it would be if your mother were the one to ask. You can try, if you wish, to initiate the conversation as a joke, or say you won't judge.
    Also, real quick, two things :
    1) Not watching any kind of porn (again, assuming that's what you're assuming) doesn't mean he's asexual.
    2) If he's 14 and he's never been taught about basic human reproduction then WHAT IN HECK is your family waiting for!? He's right in his teens, why in the name of Odin doesn't he know all about human reproduction, consent, contraception and all that jazz (I mean, I guess why, but still)? It's almost too late already. You should tell your mother he needs to learn those things, or if you agree with her that it'll be less awkward, teach him.
    So that was my advice. Have a constructive day~
     
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    I'm guessing that if he's watching something on his laptop that he abruptly closes, he probably already knows about the birds and the bees. But it wouldn't hurt to have a conversation with him. Most likely he'll be mortified to talk about it, but he might rather talk to you than to your mother.

    It is highly unlikely anyone 14 can definitively say they're asexual. I mean, if he wants to use that label, fine. But for many teens, sexual interest/arousal doesn't come until later in puberty, so it's entirely possible he just isn't there yet. That said, I'm not sure it would do any good to tell him that, other than to say that you support whatever he is.
     
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