I think my brother may be gay?

This can be a tricky situation. If your intent is "to be there for him," you can do that without asking him right out if he's gay. You can say to him on a regular basis "I'll always support you, no matter what. You know that, right?" He'll get the message, whether he's gay or not, that it would be okay with you if he were.

 

I'd say leave it. People need their own space to figure out their sexuality and need to come out in their own time. By all means, let him know that you love him and are always going to be there for him, and passively comment on gay rights, but it's probably best to stop there.

 

I agree with Markio. Just voice your support. For me, fourteen was a very confusing time, and I think being asked would just have confused me even more.

 

unless he is depressed and looks like he needs help, i say leave it alone.

 

I'd say wait for him to come to you about it.

 

I would agreeish with the above...let him know you care if he needs something you can help...and if you kinda do want to just get in there a little you could always come out to him if you're not already then he will know he can talk to you

 

Just support him and let him figure things out.

 

Seeing as your status is "not out at all" I would assume that you haven't told him about your sexuality yet... so it would be a little odd if you were to bluntly ask him about his, ya know? Like the others said, there are many ways to let him know that you are there for him. Just be a good big sister and he will come to you when he needs help

 

You come out first. Leave him be.

 

I came out to my 16-year-old brother first because he had always been supportive of gay rights and didn't really care about sexuality, if that makes sense. I knew that he wouldn't make a big deal of me being bi. As it is, though, I would have been mortified if he had asked me if I was lesbian; I would have wondered how he figured it out, if everyone knew, if it was that obvious, I might have denied it, etc.. I don't know how I would have felt if he had come out to me before I did to him (he is prettymuch asexual or aromantic or something); I have a problem with feeling inferior to my older brothers, and thinking that while I look up to them and want to be like them all I can ever do is copy and never do something for myself better than they already have. Therefore, it might have made me stay closeted for longer, especially if he had told our parents. However, I am almost certainly unique in that, and your brother will be very different. I would just say, like everyone already, just to wait.

 

I don't have any personal experience, but I've read elsewhere that it's best not to confront someone about their sexuality.

Like the previous posters mentioned, let him figure it out for himself, while you do the same for yourself. It can be hard enough just figuring out one's own orientation without trying to figure out someone else's too.

Try to let him know that you're there for him if he needs help. If the issue of gay rights comes up, make your support subtle but clear. Hopefully, if/ when he's ready, he'll feel that he can come to you.