I'm a guy just about 16 and one would think at that age you're more horny than ever. That used to be the case. It seems my penis and my head are on two different wavelengths. If I try porn, I'm completely disinterested but I have no difficulty getting an erection. My brain can't seem to find enjoyment in that idea of sex even though it's what gets me going. It's not because of depression. I had some mid life crisis a few months ago and was severely depressed for 3 months (never self destructive) and after I came out of it, I decided to get therapy out of fear that it could happen again. So I don't know what sort of mental thing this could be. I have been sick for weeks with some Undiagnosed digestive problems that I got while out of the country and I would say it could just be how sick I am, but it came before then. I more recently found enjoyment just in the idea of cuddling and that sort of intamacy with a man. I accepted my lack of libido for this substitution but that has faded too. I have never had any relationship with another guy and now I have absolutely no desire to. I don't understand! Any ideas?
No I didn't need them. I was in therapy to be sure and then when I was ready I called it and I've been fine. Just have no interest. It's not like I'm gay and I don't know :icon_wink
It's important to know about antidepressant medications since this is one of the most common causes of changes in libido and performance in bed. Given that you've been having these GI symptoms, as well as these other changes, you should check in with your doctor for some tests. While libido can fluctuate, when it's combined with other symptoms, it's something that you should mention to your doctor.
Did you used to enjoy it more than you do now, or has your libido always been low? If your libido is always low, you might just be grey-asexual or something.
You're not asexual. It gets annoying when, as soon as someone says they have a low sex drive, everyone immediately pulls out the "asexual" label. More likely, since you've ruled out the obvious things (mediation, depression) there's just a natural ebb-and-flow to one's sexual arousal. There are plenty of people, teens as well as adults, who go through phases where their sexual interest just wanes for a while. It's also possible that the issues that you were dealing with several months ago are still affecting you to a minor degree, and that, in turn, is affecting your sexual appetite. One suggestion I might offer is to simply try masturbating without any porn or other stimuli, relax and take your time and be really mindful of the physical sensations in your body, and let yourself have that experience. Don't rush it, don't consciously go into it with the idea of getting it over with, just be there and experience it, and see what happens. Sometimes, the nature and type of arousal just changes over time and it's possible your libido is just slowing down momentarily. I wouldn't stress too much about it.
Having no libido can be for many reasons including medication you are taking which is surprising it or depression which can make you have a low libido, self acceptance can also be a trigger. I always used to have a huge sex drive, and wondered why it got worse over time, but I have found out that depression wasn't helping and that the anti depressants I was on were making it worse. Since stopping the anti depressants 3 weeks ago it has increased again so the anti depressants were a big cause of a low libido.
