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Is there a way to mentally suppress a boner?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by unknown17050, Aug 1, 2013.

  1. unknown17050

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    I have been wanting to ask this question for a looooong time. But was afraid to ask because before I searched google and nothing came up on the subject, which is why I feared I'd sound stupid, so is there by any chance a mentality reason as to why I cannot get it up for men? (I am obviously questioning myself and felt this was a better place to post than the typical place.)
     
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    Are you having problems getting a Boner, when you are with another Guy?
     
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    No, I have never been with a man, or a woman to be honest, I ask this because when I try to focus on my opposite sex fantasies I get hard, but when I try to focus on my same sex fantasies, I don't and I am wondering if I am somehow mentally suppressing it, I am not sure if I am...
     
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    I think imagination is more a Woman's way of fantasizing, Guys tend to be more turned on by images, have you tried looking at Gay Porn or reading some Gay Erotica? :slight_smile:
     
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    sometimes i wish i couldn't get a boner and contain it lool.
     
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    From all of this, it sounds like it is impossible.
     
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    I doubt you're mentally suppressing it, because if so, I think throngs of school-age kids would pay good money to learn the technique. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: Maybe you're just not quite certain of precisely what turns you on? Some things I find very attractive are not necessarily too exciting in that way, and vice-versa. It could be you just haven't found a fantasy that gets you going.
     
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    I don't know, this is all so confusing, I mean if I am getting hard to the thought of women but not at all to men is raising more questions than answers.
     
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    If you're getting aroused at the thought of women, but not of men, what makes you think you're gay? If you can help us understand that, it will be easier to get you a reliable answer.
     
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    Maybe you're straight...
     
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    I think it'd be easier just to link you this conversation between myself and other user; gravechild as I feel I'll just be repeating myself in this case. Anyways, if you cannot see it, I will just copy and past it in a message for you.

    http://emptyclosets.com/forum/gravechild-conv-2-27277-with-unknown17050-29445.html