So, occasionally, I' get pretty horny and instead of porn i like to just have some fun with guys on video chat sites, But it can literally, once I'm hard, take me maybe 20 seconds to go. tops unless i just stop. But guys are going for like 20 minutes, I wish i didnt and it takes a lot of pleasure out of it personally and its embarrasing! Any diagnosis? similarities etc? many thanks
Does this only happen when you're doing the video thing or any time you masturbate? As far as advice, I'd suggest taking some time to yourself, getting a good lube that takes a long time to dry out (I generally recommend something called albolene, you can buy it at your local pharmacy) and learning how to edge. Part of the point of edging is to enjoy the sensations leading up to orgasm and to control your stimulation (grip, stroke speed and style, etc) to prolong them without actually 'going over the edge' and cumming. Basically it teaches you how to tell when your getting close and to exercise the control to slow down or reduce stimulation even though your body wants you to finish. The payout for this is more control (which is what you're looking for), an extended period of feeling really good as you 'ride the edge', and possibly a significantly intensified orgasm when you finally finish (this takes practice and finding just the right duration that works best for you). With practice it's possible to go for hours at a time if you want to. Take your time, don't worry if it takes some practice, and have fun Todd
The only thing I can offer is that the time in which one blows their load is often proportionate to how hot the person they're with is.
It's usually a combination of nervousness and arousal. I think the suggestions you've gotten are good; it's really just a matter of taking your time and practiciing. Also, not to burst your bubble, but I'll also offer up the caveat that there are literally hundreds of tube sites whose content is made up solely of guys who are recorded, without their knowledge, while masturbating with other people over Skype or one of the other such sites... and there are people who play a recording of someone else camming, making you think it's live, specifically for the purpose of recording what you're doing. I know that it can be exciting and arousing to do that sort of thing, but I'd strongly advise you to think about it, unless you're completely comfortable with the idea that your on-camera masturbation session might be recorded and posted to one or more of those sites... and once it's out there, it's pretty impossible to keep it from spreading.
Chip makes a good point to keep in mind. What I was going to say was that I'd think that most experienced guys last longer during intercourse than during masturbation. I won't go into specifics, but I fall into that category.
