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Is it normal to have anal sex if I am a lesbian?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by linden, Dec 12, 2013.

  1. linden

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    I have posted here a few weeks ago. As I mentioned then I am in my fist lesbian relationship. I am head over heels in a way I have never experienced before. And my girlfriend and I are extremely compatible sexually. We are still having sex sessions that last hours and hours. And, we are trying everything.

    A couple of weeks, however, she penetrated me anally with a finger. We had not talked about it before, but it felt good. A few days later, she did it again. We spoke about it, and agreed it was okay for both of us. Now we have both been doing this to each other. It is not the main focus of our sexual relationship; it mainly happens at some point when we are 69ing, and stuff is happening everywhere.

    Is this normal for lesbians? My girlfriend is more experienced with women; she has been with about 10 women. Yet, she had never done this or had it done to her before. Is this okay? We both like it, but I am worried maybe anal penetration should not occur between women. (And when I Google this to fin supportive, reassuring voices, I just get links for porn videos... :icon_sad: )
     
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    That is absolutely fine. There is nothing wrong at all with lesbians having anal sex. In fact, there really is nothing wrong with anyone having any kind of sex. If you enjoyed it and want to do it again, then that is fine. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that is fine too. In terms of sex, only do what feels comfortable for you but, if you are comfortable, then feel free to go for it! :slight_smile:
     
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    If it feels good at doesn't hurt you, your partner or anyone else directly then it's no harm at all, don't worry about it. Just be aware that if you two have long nails you should be careful and perhaps cut the nails short.

    Also don't care what society tells you what you can and what you can't do as a woman and a lesbian/bisexual, society's norms are silly things that are best ignored when it involves non-dangerous things you like.
     
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    It's completely normal, and you've done all the right things. You've both talked about it, you've both consented to doing it, and you both enjoy it. That's all that really matters.

    There are lots of women - gay and straight - that enjoy anal sex. Just like there are a lot of men - gay and straight - that enjoy anal sex. Sexual orientation does not magically cause nerve endings to relocate. There are a lot of sensitive nerve endings down there which makes anal sex pleasurable - which is why people engage in anal sex in the first place.

    The only thing I'd discourage you from doing is allowing other people - whether individuals or a culture - tell you that you're doing something wrong. So long as you're both consenting to it, you both enjoy it, neither of you are in any danger, and you both WANT to do it - then it isn't the business of anybody else unless you're trying to get them to participate as well.

    Just as a side note, I know that you're both currently using your fingers for penetration. You're going to want to avoid having your fingers move from ass to vagina, because you don't want the bacteria in one to transfer to the other. This can raise the chances of one of you getting a urinary tract infection. Some things you can do to avoid this: dedicate one hand to anal play, use latex gloves or latex finger cots (finger-sized condoms), and of course washing your hand with soap when switching things up.

    If you're going to decide to use toys for anal play you should be aware that there are some toys made for anal play and some made for vaginal play. Those made for anal play are going to have a flared base that's bigger than the insertable part. This is designed to keep it from slipping all the way inside. That's an embarrassing emergency room visit waiting to happen. Also, you're going to want to avoid sharing toys - where a toy goes from her ass to yours. You want to avoid this for the same reason you want to avoid going from ass to vagina, you'd be exchanging bacteria. You can avoid this by using a condom over the toy, and then removing it and putting on a new one when it's being exchanged.

    Hopefully this information will come in handy, if you weren't already aware. I hope you continue to have fun exploring and trying new things. :slight_smile:
     
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    If you like it, if she likes it. do it. As long as it isnt hurting anyone else, who cares. Do what feels good.
    Don't let society tell you what you can and cannot do in the privacy of your own bedroom/hotel room/hallway/floor :slight_smile:
     
  6. agree with what aldrick said! totally fine just play safe! :slight_smile:
     
  7. linden

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    Thanks everyone. The reassuring voices are welcome, as well as the practical advice.
     


  8. Whenever you are searching for ANYTHING that is midly adult related or LGBT use the -PORN -SEX -DATING options in your search and this will cut down a whole lot on those things you are not looking for and you don't have to page through them.

    if you ever really want to see that stuff just stop using the options



    also to address the subject, if it feels good, why not? sex is sex right, we are all adults. It is not like it is only valid for one orientation to do it a certain way. There are even toys you can buy to do easier. I even have a friend who prefers it that way.


     
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    I can only echo what everyone else has said. If it feels good, do it! (and enjoy it!)
     
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    Great answers and I have to agree with them all. I am a lesbian woman who actually prefers anal stimulation to vaginal stimulation. Everyone is different! As long as you are both enjoying it and it is consensual, go for it! :slight_smile:
     
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    ironic how someone can be a lesbian, gay or whatever and be totally cool with it but when something feels good to them, they freak.

    sister, you're a lesbian, not exactly 100% socially acceptable yet, wouldn't you say? Same with fingers or toys in the bum. If it feels good to you, that's all you ever need - your own acceptance and happiness.
     
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    There is no such thing as "normal" and even when "experience" may seam threatening it always is very different with each individual. So like theysaid on earlier posts, you did good, you both tried it, talked about it and keep enjoying it.
    Just make sure to have the proper information about health and sanity issues like if you do anal don't go with the same finger to the vagina and things like that to avoid infections.

    Other than that, enjoy!!
     
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    Enjoying anal stimulation just means that your anus has nerve endings. Most people's do.
     
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    Yes, it's perfectly normal if you or her like it, or if one likes it and the other doesn't, or even with neither like it.
     
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    I never had anal sex but i enjoy anal masturbation and I'm a lesbian . I love vaginal more but some times i get in the mood for anal so it's ok to be a lesbian and like it
     
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    I've only been with 6 woman sexually but I've never had anal penetration of any kind, mainly out of fear that it'll hurt. I do know of lesbian woman who've told me they like it. Maybe I'll find the courage to give it a try someday.
     
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    It feels good if done right
     
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    This may sound like a nonsequitor, but bear with me....

    The majority of people do not like to eat liver.
    I love liver.
    This particular food preference on my part makes me "not normal" in a purely statistical sense.
    But is there any reason why it should matter to me what OTHER people like to eat? Liver will taste the same to me regardless of how many other people like it or don't like it. All that matters is that I enjoy it.

    Likewise with preferences for sexual activities. Enjoy!
     
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    Thanks, I've got a mental list of new things I want to try in 2014, that will be on my list.