kissing someone that has known HSV1 (oral herpes)

Although transmission of HSV (either type) is possible at any time, it generally only spreads when a sore is forming or visible. Sores tend to form relatively rapidly, so, from an HSV perspective, it's relatively safe. Also, for an otherwise healthy adult, HSV is mostly just a nuisance (sometimes somewhat painful one), and won't cause any serious effects, though it can have a side effect of locally weakening some of the body's defenses.

 

Here's my question...they say you can get hsv1 down there but wouldn't you be kissing the guy first before he went down there so you'd be more likely to get it on your lips?

How do you guys not worry about herpes? Most men don't use condoms for oral and docs don't usually test for this so how can you not worrying? I want to get over this worry

 

Herpes CAN spread even if a person has never shown any sign of infection. HSV1 is typically oral, but can be passed to the genital region. It doesn't really "like" it, so infection if there aren't any active sores is unlikely.

There's not really a ton you can do beside use condoms and not engage in activity if one person has visible sores.

 

Would you use condoms for oral?

 

You likely already have it. I remember reading somewhere that 80-90% of the population has it. Most people just don't know. Also, it can be transmitted by drinking from the same glass or bottle too, so I doubt there's really anything you can do to avoid getting it.

 

Well, no, but I wouldn't have sex, especially oral, with a guy. Semen, ew. I would use dental dams, though. They make flavored condoms for a reason!

 

Why are we reviving threads where the user has not logged on for a while?

 

There are often questions about STIs, incincluding herpes. The advice is still good.

 

Hahaha to your semen statement! Do you use dental dams all the time?

 

I have only recently accepted my likely ride:, so I have not had sex with a woman (unfortunately).


I think I would use dental dams in the beginning of a relationship, and then see how it progresses from there. I think it's pretty uncommon for lesbians to use them, but safer sex is good sex. (!)

 

A lot of people get cold sores and they are difficult to avoid. You'd probably have to be really lucky, or really abstinant to avoid them totally. But I wouldn't kiss anyone with an active sore. I wouldn't let them go down on me either.

 

Congrats on the self acceptance!!!

 

I think it's most contagious before the blister forms. I don't know, maybe it's just that once the blister forms people know not to kiss. I go to a church where everyone comes up and drinks out of the same cup. I figure that's got to be the surest way to spread it out to a thousand people in a short amount of time. It's pretty transmittable. I figure most everybody must have the HSV-1.

 

True..I know I don't have it from a test like a year back but probably could have it gotten it by now..just don't want it on my genitals haha