does getting wet matter?

Well depending on the type of porn you're watching maybe you're not sexually attracted to her. Or maybe getting wet is just not a natural response to sex for you. I don't think it would cause problems if you use lube when its needed.

 

Sex doesn't happen all at once and it is something that needs nurtured over time. Watching major sex happen, all at once, crosses you over the line. You feels that you've accomplished mental awareness of sex. But you just prematurely exposed yourself to someone Else's intentional sexual accomplishments. So, I'd say be patient with your sexual behavior and you'll be able to mature past the video snipe...

 

Well...it does matter...it may be a sign that you're not entirely comfortable with what you're doing. This can happen if you are moving too quickly in the bedroom. Everyone has their own pace and a lot of people, especially women, need to take things slowly. Ask yourself-Do you feel pressured by your girlfriend? Are you putting pressure on yourself to go farther than you are ready? These things matter and will effect how turned on you can get.

 

Hmm...I don't know then. I always thought being wet went with being turned on but maybe it's different for everyone. Perhaps certain medications can interfere with that? I'm just speculating...I'm sorry I can't be more helpful...

 

Maybe you get really self-conscious and don't totally let loose. It can be nerve-wracking some times when there's another person involved. That can inhibit some responses...as you say when you're alone you don't have this problem.

 

If you get turned on by your gf and are attracted to her then I wouldn't worry

 

Are you taking any medications at the moment?

I wouldn't worry too much about it. As long as you are aroused and actually want to have sex with her, I'd say you'll be fine as long as you use lube. I'm pretty sure some people get more or less wet than others, no?

 

Not everyone is the same in every situation and you did say you do orgasm, so as long as the rest of it is not a problem I am wondering - are you really just making a problem where there is none.

A lot of what people think of as problems are due to us wanting to be just like everyone else - or worse yet, lets do it like in the movies (or even worse porn) but guess what? All of that is pretend. Real life is different and real people are not plastic. All you see on film is special effects - all faked. So don't expect to be like them. Just be you - and if you and your girlfriend are happy together and make each other feel good, you are doing fine. (!)

 

Some women don't get that wet.

I get wetter if I see porn or read about erotica than I do with my wife, usually. I do get wet with her, but it takes much, much, longer. It's probably just that you are visual and turned on my the visual, and fantasy. I would not even worry about it, after all when you get older and middle aged, you will find yourself getting dryer, but still as horny and turned on by your lover. Its just a body change. There is some days that I get wetter than others also. No biggie. If you are turned on by your girl and you enjoy sex with her, who cares how wet you are? It does not mean anything at all. Believe me, if all women got wet all the time, there would be NO reason for all the lubes out there!

 

Before you delete it, if you ever feel like getting wet (out of lube, etc.) you could always watch a bit of porn with your GF before sex if she is okay with that of course

 

Nothing that a good lub can't do for you. They even come in flavor too.
It matters if you feel uncomfortable and are not doing anything about it. Like you go through penetration and fake that it doesn't hurt because it is dry.
Dryness may be caused by several factors from a simple hormonal issue to a a factor such as taking some kind of medication.

So, go and get your lub and gently try. Hope it works!! :smilewave