Last night a friend's mom hooked me and a guy up, we've been talking for awhile and I wanted to go all out and lose my virginity and fully know if I'm gay or not - at first he couldn't get it in since I wasn't relaxed enough, though I think it's due to him being big.. anyways so we just jerked off and called it a night then last night rolled around, I asked him if he wanted to try it again, he accepted and got it in. It felt good, but when he was thrusting in and out it felt like I was about to have an accident, I thought this was normal. But I'm not sure if maybe I just have to loosen myself up or maybe I'm just no fit for being a bottom. Any thoughts?
No, what you describe is pretty normal. Unless you've had some experience with penetrating yourself with fingers or toys, then this was presumably the first time you'd ever felt anything of any size in there that wasn't a bowel movement. So when you did, your mind would associate the sensations with a BM. With experience and practice you'll get to the point of being able to differentiate the two and also develop the ability to relax to let a guy in pretty much as easily as you now shift your weight from one foot to the other. You can also learn to control the muscles to grip and massage him to enhance both your pleasure and his. You don't mention how much and what kind of prep you did before starting anal, but you might want to check out the EC Resources page on the topic just to be sure you covered all the bases. Finally, it should be noted that different guys like different things and not all gay guys are into anal or into it to the same degree. Porn tends to treat anal as the ultimate experience and ultimate gay sex pleasure, but the fact of the matter is that it's like most other things. Some guys find it awesome above anything else, some don't like it at all, and some fit in on a spectrum between these two extremes. You said it felt good, which is a good start. Now it's probably a matter of trying it some more, increasing your skills, finding what feels best, and determining where on your personal scale of sex acts and pleasure anal fits in. You may want to do it whenever possible or only occasionally when the mood strikes. Some of it may depend on your partner and his skill at topping or just how you 'click' together sexually. You don't mention if you've topped yet, but if not and when you do you may like it more, less, or the same as bottoming. Hope this helps. Play safe and have fun. Todd
I honestly didn't do much prep, I made sure I didn't have much to eat that day and before we did everything I made sure I was empty. I haven't topped, though that's the next step I'm guessing -
