I think I have a solution to my boyfriend not being able to stay hard to fuck me: a cock ring. But I don't know how to suggest this to him. He's very self-conscious to begin with... so I want to pose this question to all you gay and bi guys: If your partner asked you to wear a cock ring so you could top, would you be embarrassed?
*laughs* I top anyway, no troubles. But if my boyfriend wanted to experiment with toys, I'd never say no!
not at all cuz toys can be soo much fun ---------- Post added 18th Feb 2014 at 06:01 PM ---------- and if it works for you i don't see why your boyfriend would say no
If I actually had a penis, I wouldn't have a problem with being asked to wear a cock ring. I find toys of all kinds really fun.
Nope, would not be embarrassed...they're loads of fun. Just make sure they're not too tight. I really love all the kinds you can get, for both cock and balls.
I'm basically a bottom, and not very well endowed anyway... But my top instincts are very strong on occasion. So, sure, why not?
Forgive me if this has been discussed before, but have you/he explored why he has difficulty getting hard? If it's a psychological issue (the most likely culprit), I'm not sure the cock ring is going to help much. And if it's a physiological issue, the cockring might not be advisable unless he's been to a doctor to have things checked out. My guess is that the self-consciousness and the difficulty getting hard are tied together (and probably the reverse of what would first seem to be the case.) So one of the best routes might be to open the door to just having an honest conversation. Assuming there isn't a physical problem, if you two can talk about it honestly, to the point where he isn't blaming himself and being down on himself, and if he can realize that this isn't in his conscious control and he shouldn't feel crappy about it... that may start to help his self esteem, which, in turn, will help him get over the difficulty getting hard. I think I would make the cockring part of a bigger conversation, otherwise he may feel inadequate or shameful about it.
You guys bring up some very good points. The strange thing is, though, that it only takes about 5 seconds of me giving him a BJ to get him to go rock hard. The problem is getting it to stay that way for the period that he's "preparing" me. So I figure if I can blow him and slip a cock ring on while I'm doing that, it'll help keep him hard in the interim. I asked him and he agreed with my logic .
My partner experiences the same thing and truthfully I think it is psychological. I have tried the cockring and it made no difference. I have no problem topping him as I can stay hard, but i love wearing cockrings regardless.
