Unintentional Lesbian Sex at 7 years old

Its child on child sexual abuse and it is as damaging as any other kind of sexual abuse evn if you liked it.

 

Sounds like it was childhood experimentation. I don't agree that it was abuse though, unless you were really threatened or coerced. It's actually very common for children to engage in sexual behavior; human beings are sexual at all ages, even as fetuses in the womb.

I wouldn't worry about it if you actually enjoyed it because It's not too uncommon, really. I started masturbation at age 4 and had sexual curiosities for others too. Little kids love to pleasure themselves, they just don't understand it in the full sexual way that adults do.

 

Yay another Marylander!
I agree with Fallingdown, i've read stories of kids as young as 4 masturbating, But I don't think that experiences have anything to do with orientation, but I may be wrong

 

Sorry, how old was this other girl?

 

It is quite normal for kids to do this. My son, even as an infant, loved playing with himself. He would tug so hard on that thing I thought he would pull it right off! I didn't know that babies could get erections, but there were times when I felt bad putting a diaper back on him becuase I thought I would hurt him with that thing standing straight up!

At three years old I caught him playing with himself on the couch while looking at one of the coffee table books that has prints by the 15th century German artist Albrecht Durer. He had found his Adam and Eve engraving and was sitting there by himself oblivious to everything around him, having a great old time...

As far as abuse goes, I would be inclined to consider this childhood exploration/experimentation. Although I would have some concern about the age differential between you two. Anytime there is that differential there is a potential for an unequal power dynamic to arise. However, at both grade 2/3 and grade 6, both are still obviously children...

 

I've heard of 2 year olds masturbating.

Basically, as soon as kids are physically capable of masturbating, at least some of them happen upon it and realize it's enjoyable.

 

There is NO consensual sex at age 7. The federal age of consent in the US is 16-18 depending on the state.
From Wikipedia:
In the People's Republic of China the age of consent for sexual activity is fourteen (14) years, regardless of gender and/or sexual orientation.[17]"

You said she was in the 6th grade. That means she was 12 or 13. That was sexual abuse. Had she been a boy the responses here would be very different. You need to see a LGBT therapist. Please.

 

As much as I hate double standards I have to agree with Rose on this. Had it been a boy things would've been different.

 

If the other person was 12/13, then I do agree with you that that constitutes more as sexual abuse and no one would disagree with that. If they were both the same age, regardless if it was a female or male, then I wouldn't see it as such and more so child experimentation. Obviously this was more so on the coercion side if it was a huge age difference.

 

I started masturbating at age 3 or 4.

But yeah, if she was that much older than you, that's a bit problematic. Seems pretty coercive of her to get you to do that.

 

Some of you guys have spent too much time on tumblr or wherever you're getting these weird ideas from. What abuse? WhyteWind clearly said several times that she has no hard feelings, no traumas etc., and in fact liked the experience, yet you keep trying to make her feel abused and actually tell her to see a therapist? Just leave her alone already. Kids do whatever comes to their mind, often without understanding what they are doing, and sometimes understanding it way better than adults, who just parrot ''abuse, abuse, abuse'' as soon as there's a situation not 100% in line with what everyone is supposed to do. Don't create an issue where there is none.

yes, it's exactly this and nothing more

 

A LGBT friendly therapist can help you sort all this stuff out. Your friend may not understand what she did was wrong/abusive. It took me decades to find the courage to discuss my abuse experience/being gay in therapy. I let fear,embarrassment and shame control me when I was your age.
Please think about going to therapy. (*hug*)

 

Fact: A 12-13 year old re-enacting sex scenes from a porn magazine with a 7 year old is a sex crime in the United States.

 

I think you do need to seek professional help with this. I know you feel that this didn't cause you any harm, however, as an example, there are people who were victims of sexual abuse who lived there lives normally without realising it happened.

 

No, I wasn't suggesting that you should go to therapy for your sexual orientation, I was suggesting that you should go to therapy for the sexual abuse. However you want to frame it, this is a damaging situation for child to be in, your dismissive attitude towards child sex abuse to evidence of this and it is quite disturbing.

I was referring to a situation where someone repressed sexual abuse they received and where traumatised when they remembered.
Finally, no this is not common for closeted people.....

 

Just noticed in 1st post you are turning 18. You don't need your parents permission at 18 to make medical appts. or get therapy. Ask your school nurse if there is a low cost or a free clinic you could get therapy. You don't have to explain why.