I just had my first sexual experience with my bf and we had an amazing experience. We only gave each other hand jobs, but we cuddled a lot. I was wondering what the best way is to help my bf have more tolerance to finishing so early. It took me forever to finish and he did really soon. Should I tell him that he should edge more? Also I was wondering, because it took me forever to finish...like 20 mins... that isn't normal for me, could it have been nerves?
I'm sure there were nerves on both ends. Anxiety can cause both abnormally premature and belated ejaculation; it all depends on the biological reaction of each individual. I wouldn't worry too much about this after only a first experience. Partners tend to fall more in line with things over time.
I was going to say exactly what Gen said: I've seen "nerves" work in both ways; sometimes it causes people to finish too fast or sometimes it prevents them from finishing in the "expected" amount of time or even at all.
Edging is something I prefer to do WITH my partner, not something I want to tell him to do on his own. The only thing is it's harder to do together until you've learned about each other enough.
The same thing happened again last night.. I think it may be nerves still. However, I did manage to make my bf really happy when we did stuff. I hope it starts becoming normal, because it's starting to get annoying.
take a look at this thread i started, I have the issue of premature ejactulation and the replies may help your boyfriend. http://emptyclosets.com/forum/physical-sexual-health/129854-i-cum-quickly.html
A few minutes is pretty normal. Although edging is a solution, you might also look into trying to "get off" sooner.
