If you have a porn addiction does that mean you can never watch porn again ?

That's basically what it means, yeah...the idea being that if you had the kind of willpower that would allow you to watch once and not get hooked you wouldn't have been addicted in the first place...

 

I used to have a real problem with this pre-transition. I think for me, I would spend a lot of 'me' time so that my libido would still enough I could think clearly about other things the rest of the time. It became a coping mechanism and then an addiction to the chemical response in the brain. Now I don't even think about porn at all, and am a lot more productive and healthy socially. I still love my romance novels though!

 

The problem with process addictions like pornography is they are quite like chemical addictions. Your mind becomes used to getting it's load of good chemicals from what you do (ie porn)

Now here is where the problem comes in with addiction. And this is mostly my opinion as someone who has treated addictions AND has been treated for addiction (Vicodin)

You are an addict for life when something gets bad enough. You talk to ex-heroin users or ex-pill users and you'll find out that the temptation is always right around the corner. When you feed back into that loop you can find your addiction coming back. For me with Vicodin I can never ever take it again because I am well aware that if I do I will probably be instantly back on the train

so be careful with it if what you have is an addicition

good luck

 

It's not at all easy to admit faults to people especially when it comes to addiction. I always worried people would think I was a bad person for "allowing myself to get addicted." But then I realized I made mistakes and life goes on. I don't have enough time to worry about what others think and those who do think ill of me because of an addiction don't truly love me

 

you're fantastic...remember that

and if it's hard to remember that some days...remember this

We are all faulty at times

 

I used to have the same addiction and I quit cold turkey. Spent two months without watching it, then tried it again. Now I find it pretty boring and dull.

If I decide to watch some videos, I set myself a limit (no more than 30 mins), and I respect it. But I very rarely feel the need anyway.

 

I'm actually facing the same problem. It is very hard, specially, in my case, when you have a computer or laptop to yourself and you have lots of time to spare. You always have the temptation of watching and if you do, you feel very bad about it later. What I've been doing is using my time on other things. Like drawing, writing, reading a book. I actually recommend you going to wattpad.com where you can read novels or stories from beginners. It is very entertaining.

Also, sorry if I'm not suppose to recommend sites.

 

Immediately quitting a process that one has grown accustom to can be very jarring in any case. All addiction does not have to move from one extreme to another. Individuals with sex addiction aren't often expected to become celibate for the further extent of their lifes. Likewise with food for instance. When the addiction is of an action that is inherently unhealthy, smoking and alcohol for instance, it is often best to cut things off completely, but it is possible to use pornography as a sexual stimulate without receiving negative effects as long as it is used properly.

I would recommend finding some substitutions to pure pornography. Addiction is often birthed from routine. It is perfectly find to seek various forms of entertainment to stimulate arousal, but it can be very dangerous to fall into a routine of constantly turning into the same form of stimuli, especially pornographic videos. It is alright to enjoy pornography on a semi-regular basis as long as it does not become the exclusive process of masturbation.

Additionally, Ornior offers some very good advice. Setting limits can be very effective. In the vast majority of cases, porn addiction arises from the viewer beginning to lengthen their session of enjoyment and watch the videos in instances where they are not actively masturbating. In the times that you are viewing porn, it shouldn't be a multiple hour affair.

 

I would think with something like Porn.. all you need to do is develop you discipline level with porn, like alcohol (I'm not saying alcohol is ok, i'm just using it as an example) People who really like Alcohol, but abuse it need to find the middle ground. It can be very hard to give it up cold turkey forever because the person really loves alcohol, and they are prone to relapse as stated above, instead they should drink alcohol in moderation, maybe 3 or 4 beers every now and then.

I'm not comparing alcohol to pill abuse or anything like that, I know any addiction is hard to give up, but with some things (things that aren't so destructive to your body) learning to use it in moderation is ok.

 

I like them too. And my interest in writing compels me even more to spend more time in that than watching porn. It's only been like 4 days since I stopped, but I'm very happy reading and brainstorming for stories of my own.

 

There used to be times when I watched porn for 4 or 5 hous, without even realizing it. It ended up in me lacking sleep or anyway missing on doing more meaningful things. It was also a routine: whenever I felt angry or sad or tired, porn was my "cigarette". When I realized that, I said to myself: boy, you have an addiction. And that's when I decided to quit cold-turkey. It's not for everyone, but I have a quite strong will power. The first week was hard, then you get used to it, and you just don't miss it. You can try substitutes, for instance erotic short stories or comics. Since they are fiction in a way that is more evident than porn videos, it helps you to "see yourself" in them, instead of just performing a voyeuristic action.

My big problem was that porn had become MUCH better than sex with my (ex) boyfriend. Now I have a partner with whom sex is amazing, and that also helps to reduce porn to its real function.