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Curious about lesbian sex

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Short n sweet, Mar 19, 2014.

  1. Short n sweet

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    I hope this isn't a stupid question but I am genuinely curious about how lesbians give pleasure to each other. I understand every couple is different and some will have different practices than others. The only lesbian sex I have seen is in pornographic videos and I know that isn't reality for the most part. I find myself fantasizing about being with a woman but in my fantasy it is the thought of touching bodies together that I like, more in a romantic way. I am not into oral sex and I wonder if that makes me different since most people think of oral when they think of lesbians being intimate. If I ever had a chance to be with a woman I think it may be a turn off to her if I don't want to give oral. Is is common to not like oral or is it just something you do for your partner because you want to give them pleasure.
     
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    As you said, it's different for every couple. (Forgive me for being a bit graphic) but my idea of lesbian sex might be some hand stuff and a lot of kissing and whatnot, whereas someone else might not think it counts unless they are up to their elbows in another girls butt!

    It's not like there is a set 'way' to do it, it's just whatever you want to do at the time!
     
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    :lol: Not too graphic at all, I dont offend easily and I am very open to talking about sex. I understand what you mean,it is different for everyone. It just seems a bit confusing when all you see in videos is a bit of petting, squeeze a boob and preform oral lol. I know there must be more to it than that :wink:
     
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    I want to try oral once I start having sex, but I want to try everything else too, even SCISSORING! :lol:
    But everyone's tastes are different and it's perfectly natural to not be interested in certain sex techniques. :slight_smile:

    I'd type up a list of lesbian sex techniques, but AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT, so here's a Wikipedia page that might give you an idea: Lesbian sexual practices - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
     
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    That woman is awesome! We need her at every fire.. just attach her to the fire truck!

    There are women that would rather give than receive so it shouldn't be a problem, simply make sure you tell her straight up what your boundaries are.
    One turn off however would be "Can my husband watch?"
     
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    Hey don't worry about it. There are plenty of girls who wouldn't care. I know you are merely curious but rather than thinking about the videos just let your imagination run wild. Start with imagining the girl and then what you think you would like to do and see where you end up.
     
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    Thanks, I will check out that link :wink:

    Absolutely, that is the one thing standing in my way of experimenting so I may never get a chance unless it is with a bi friend we have but I am not too sure about that. I can still dream though lol :slight_smile:

    I have been doing a lot of that imagining lately :lol:
     
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    Well that's cool. Imagination is an amazing thing.
     
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    Everyone is different, there's no set in stone thing. I like the idea of oral, but you don't have to like it. I dislike manual sex for the most part (If It's done wrong anyway; I hate finger penetration but don't mind external rubbing) but a lot of lesbians do that too. It just depends on the couple.
     
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    Well... I'm a virgin, but after watching these girls, I feel like I have a much more thorough and accurate picture of what lesbian sex is:

    Lesbians Explain : How Two Girls Have Sex! - YouTube

    :wink:

    Jkjk. Sorry, can't really help you there, but I really liked that video. Make sure to watch the "How Gay Men Have Sex," too, it's even better.
     
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    The first physical experiences I had with my first girlfriend were just a lot of cuddling and a little kissing. Eventually there was mutual masterbation. We eventually had oral sex, but it wasn't like a requirement or anything, just something we were curious about trying. I'll admit that I had some mental blocks to either giving or receiving, but they were reduced a little when we bathed together first.
     
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    I want to try oral , strap on , scissoring and just using dildos on each other . When i start having sex . I'm very curious about it too
     
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    I do a lot of passionate kissing and cuddling with my former relationships. And a mix of hand job and oral. Oh, you sure know what to do if the heat's up. :grin:
     
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    When I was with my ex girlfriend, we did a lot of cuddling, kissing, teasing, rubbing and fingering. I actually prefer to give than receive (oral sex) because I cannot seem to relax -still working in that btw.

    Everyone is different and well, you should never do anything you do not feel comfortable doing. I'm not one for dildos, straps ons nor am I a fan of penetration. However, I'm more than willing to keep an open mind, and if the next girl I'm with wants to try playing with dildos then I'm all for it!
     
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    Google Tribadism or 'tribbing'. Lots of people - including myself until I made a point to read up on lesbian sex when I started accepting myself - assume it is only possible in the scissoring position because that's something often seen in porn, but there are actually a few positions you can do it in: missionary, doggy, cowgirl (not sure about reverse cowgirl, think that would be pretty tricky angling but I'm sure someone will have tried it :lol: ).
    Individual enjoyment of the genital to genital contact seems to vary from what I understand, some women love it others say it doesn't do much for them. But then I guess the same could be said for opinions on other stuff like oral, fingering, sex toys etc.
     
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    Thank you to everyone who replied. It gives me a lot of insight, and makes me long for a girlfriend lol. That is not in the cards for me though being married with kids. It is confusing sometimes but i still feel true to myself and that is important :wink:
     
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    YES!! Why aren't my tax dollars funding this?! :grin:
     
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    I like being on top in missionary, with or without the use of a strap on. I like to be able to look at her and kiss her while having sex. I also love kissing necks and having my neck kissed, drives me crazy! I would like to try a feeldoe sometime though. I don't mind fingering while in this position too.

    Not keen on oral at all. I guess if she really wanted it, I could make sacrifices, and as long as she showers beforehand haha. I'd rather not though.
     
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    I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't like oral, although in all fairness I have never tried it with a woman :lol: . I do it for my hubby if he is freshly showered but its not something I love doing lol
     
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    I think the government doesn't understand the emotional trauma suffered by those whose homes have burned to the ground. If they knew then they would see that a little comic relief in troubling times can help people through the pain.

    The main appeal of going down on a woman is the pleasure she gets from it. I find it highly satisfying. Maybe one day you'll understand. (^_~)