I have problems ejaculating when I top my boyfriend. I can orgasm when i'm alone and when I bottom, but I just cant seem to get there when I penetrate him. It feels good but just not good enough to make me reach orgasm. I can get close and then when I reach the point of no return, the sensation disappears and I am left frustrated. Another issue that has arisen from this situation is that my boyfriend thinks he can't pleasure me as a bottom (his preferred position). This couldnt be farther from the truth, though. I love to top him, and what he is doing feels great. I should also mention that I'm bisexual and have been able to orgasm when having sex with women too. How have other people overcome this issue? A few people have suggested not masturbating for as long as 90 days to "reset" my sexual brain. I tried this once before, and after only one week of no porn, masturbation or sex I was able to orgasm from topping my boyfriend. However, a few days later when we had sex again I wasnt able to orgasm again. So far i've managed to not orgasm for about 2 weeks (no porn, masturbation or sex). I feel like this is a psychological issue since I can orgasm in other ways besides topping. At the moment I dont have the funds to see a sex therapist, so are there any other ways people have dealt with this issue?
