is bareback safe for a commited couple?

I've been doing it with my boyf for 4 months now and we've had no problems. Neither of us have STIs or know other gay people so there's very little chance of it. I have heard someone mention UTIs on here and I'd be interested to hear what people say about that because in unsure myself.
Conclusion: if you are COMMITTED it's safe but I can't answer about UTIs

 

My boyfriend and I will have been together for three years in a couple weeks and we always use condoms. Every single time. He was a virgin when we got together romantically, me not so much, and really, there's always the chance until we get married that we won't be together forever, and so it's necessary to take precautions.

 

To contemplate bareback you need to have the highest level of trust in your partner. It's clearly a risk and you need to fully understand that - some will take the risk, some most definitely will not. I don't think anyone can really advise you on this, it is an issue that completely divides opinion.

 

I think that you should use a condom all the time, unless you are in a monogamous relationship for years - married, romantic partner, etc.

 

To quote a legal principle established over 2000 years ago in the Talmudic tractate: Gittin, "no one can guarantee the sexual behaviour of another"

In its original context, this was related to questions surrounding grounds for divorce but is most applicable here too; sex is too powerful a force and HIV is too serious a disease to leave it to trust.

 

No. Reason is the risk of urinary tract infection for the penetrating partner...

Learn to love assfucking with a condom. Modern science is awesome for letting us enjoy guys' butts safely.

 

After enough YEARS.. yeah if you still weigh UTI's

Lest we forget- Things can be transmitted that neither partner in a 100% zero other sexuality situation "got sexually" examples of yeah- normal bowel bacterias etc, and when you add transfusions ets- Bareback is not "Zero Risk" for UTI's if nothing else... Even if- we're hyper zealous in cleansing our lower rears- it's simply not sane to expect we can disinfect it absent grim health consequences. My masturbation precleaning habits are a balance between not wanting mess and bad memories of how horribly painful any irritation back there can be.

Yeah, there's a romanticism of wanting to feel them shoot and some folks even get a high from knowint their lover has left traces in them. If you want to be romantic by MY rules- consider that as grounds to be monogamous enough years for safety:>

Your rules on romance may vary but please never lose sight of mutual safety both emotionally and health factors.

When you look at *Long Latency* diseases the numbers of YEARS that one needs to have been 100% single pairing is a serious consideration. To be honest- even if we've had that fabled love at first sight= no sexuality with anyone but the one person- and that is symmetrical so there's a REAL: ZERO case of a STD being SEXUALLY transmitted, we're still back to Avoidable UTI's.

 

I have yet to have sex with a guy, but so want my first time to be bareback. I want my first time to be feeling skin on skin and him shooting inside of me. That would be an amazing first time experience. However, I am big on keeping myself safe. There is no way any desire or wants will ever over rule my safety. If bareback puts me at risk, then as much as I am not keep on it, it’s condoms on or no sex. Safety is always first because it makes the biggest difference.

 

Sorry I know this isn't my thread however I just stumbled across it and started reading it.

But when I got to your post hopefilled, I couldn't really understand what you are saying can you please explain it again.

 

I want to point out three things, but before doing so, I want to remind the OP that this path is his to walk, and his alone.

1) All of our parents barebacked. I suspect the majority of our parents are alive, still, with no sex-induced health risks.

2) Entering a relationship while doubting the potential partner sounds, to me, like a very poor way to establish any form of trust.

3) As someone who has their fair-share of medical trauma, I assure you that there are far more life-threatening diseases and conditions out there that cannot be prevented-- no matter how little sex you have, how "green" you eat, or how much exercise you employ.

Do all of these reasons culminate into the conclusion that barebacking is okay? No. However, they are things to consider.

 

@Chip,

While I wholeheartedly endorse and promote the careful consideration of sex (as a general idea-- including more specific aspects such as barebacking), I was merely providing some alternative insight. I do not appreciate my response being so undermined and denounced as it was. To my knowledge, each point of mine is refutable, as I clearly outlined-- there may be underlying reasons, explanations, or causes for the claims I made, but they nevertheless remain subject to each of my own imperfections (as we all have).

Just as both posts of yours also remain true through your perspective. Unless you are a licensed medical practitioner, it would be unjust to provide such an absolute recommendation for what he should do. Clearly, I know nothing of your expertise, but your opinions are not scholarly or professional.*

This said, I do agree with the points you've made too, Chip. Therefore, I will simply tell the OP that I would not take such a risk if were I in his shoes-- to "err on the side of caution." But, again, this decision is his and I hope he chooses a path which will make him happiest with whatever consequences that may follow suit. And there are, also, always opinions to contrast either stance on any topic.

*Only IF you are not a licensed medical practitioner. If you are, however, then your claims deserve the legitimate consideration that your title and credentials bestow upon you.

 

I dont see how there is a tiny difference between using a condon and going barebacj. I see many differences one being the feeling of skin on skin yes I know u said before about there being inly a tiny dufference. And what about cumming inside I am sure there us a difference vetween feeling ur partner cum inside u with a condom on and bareback.

Just my thoughts on this.

 

Ok- to explain myself in blunt terms.

Death is the ultimate buzzkill of all. Lingering diseases are a close runner up and some of them end up as yeah, DEAD. Barrier methods are simplest fact- a dramatic RISK REDUCTION and the reverse is more true. Sexual contact inherently is a set of risks that we accept or ignore- or manage.

Any act of meat touching meat has an inherent risk of bioactive stuff getting transferred and saying otherwise is not sane. It thence becomes a case of Risk to Reward evaluation.

Is Bareback worth dying for?

Is it worth any other consequences?

Is it worth an UTI?

That's not the last words. I can make this one phase with a meme to capstone this whole thread.

No matter how romantic Bareback is- Death is unconcerned with romance.

*The avoidable last words are what one says when dying avoidably*