Question for gay men who used dildo

Heya,
So how long are we talking before you can't go any further? 6-7 inches? And are you using a pretty solid dildo, or flexible?

I could be wrong, but yes, I think that is the prostate. Even after research on the internet, I've never really been 100% what it is that you hit.
I don't think you can do any damage by hitting it. If you jam it in hard enough (as seen in The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo) I'm sure you can, but just going up against it with a dildo won't do any harm.

In any case (assuming that this is 6" in or so) - you just need to work the dildo around that place. It seems to me like everyone has their own position that works best, e.g. some people take a dick deeper in one position than they can in a different one.

 

The prostate is located between the penis and bladder.

Your rectum could be shorter than other men.

You may end up in an emergency room if you try to push it further.

 

Aye that's about where I max out too (7 inch).
I don't really want to push it any further than that haha.

If I were more knowledgeable, I'd be happier to help you, but unfortunately I don't have a good enough understanding of the anatomy down there, so I won't say much.

You can try moving your dildo in different directions to see if you can get deeper one way, but please don't try pushing too hard.
Thrnvlpidj's right - That might just be the length of your rectum. Don't be so determined that you hurt yourself.

 

I;m glad someone asked this question. I wondered that myself.

 

Deeper doesn't mean better. When a doctor examines the prostate gland it is usually done with a finger. I would suggest locating your prostate gland and massaging it a bit. You may want to aim your dildo there.

There is some good information in Resources>Health you should read.
Empty Closets - Health

 

There's a relatively sharp turn in the colon about 6 inches from the anus. If you are using relatively solid toys they'll stop there. If you're using more flexible toys, they may follow that curve. In any event, if it hurts, stop.

 

I have had the same experience using an 8 incher. I don't think its the prostate gland because I've rubbed my boyfriend's and it's not that far inside. I just figured I was hitting a wall. On another forum someone asked if pushing a dildo in too far could cause bladder prolapse, so maybe it's pushing against the bladder.

 

I may be able to shed some light on this as I work in diagnostic imaging and have a decent understanding of the structures here.
You see, as you pass the anus, you enter directly into the rectum. The average rectum is around 4 - 5 inches long. At the end of this (remember we are going backwards through the anatomy) the rectum deviates laterally (usually to to the left) as you enter the sigmoid colon which is the s-shape-ish bit of bowl before you enter the vertical descending colon (the last main bit of the large bowl).
So essentially, when you are passing a certain point with a dildo you are essentially hitting a cornet and so hitting a wall. If you try to press harder, it will likely to become painful.

You may also contact your prostate, which could also cause pain. One thing I would say, is don't force it further that it appears to go. If you do you could perforate your bowl and believe me, you will be in a world of hurt then.

Hope this helps,

Happy days

 

More than likely, you're going too far. The prostate, at most, should be no further in than the length of your middle finger. I know it took me FOREVER to find my prostate (still can't feel it with my finger) but I got a toy that rotates around inside your bum that basically does all the work for you. It's about the length of my middle finger and the thickness of a banana, and boy did it hit the prostate perfectly. You'll know if you hit it because your penis will start tingling and you may feel like you need to pee.

 

No that is not the prostate. The prostate is literally a fingers length from the opening of your anus. Some people can fit more into their anal cavity and others aren't able to. Your anal cavity probably stops around 7 inches. For me, I can fit my 8 inch into mine but it pretty much stops there. The people you see in porn, who fist and do other things like that, have spent a long time stretching out their anal cavities. They have engaged in lots of foreplay and took time to stretch it out. Put it in as far as it feels good to you. When you feel like you've hit the prostate, you will know.

 

Do the Research- look at anatomical drawings:>

I've deeply fond memories of self-educating with medical reference books way before we had "Our" literature of pleasurable safety. Knowledge is power! I'd been misinformed about so much that re-educating myself on an emotional level took some time. Having full self ownership includes knowing how our bodies are configured. Our anatomical COMFORT angles do have some variability and not all of us will find a certain angle of insertion even always possible, let alone comfortable. Same goes to sexual positions.

If you have women in your life that you can talk openly with- ask them about comfort angles for tampons&menstrual cups as that's sort of i line with our dildo comforts. It took me a LONG time to find a comfy angle& kind of squat to get one cherished toy in me properly though the multiple prostate orgasms are a warm happy memory glow almost 3/4th of my life later.

 

^this

 

... and for those of you who don't think you measure up in the size department, this thread should tell you that you don't need a dong like a dildo to pleasure a mate/partner. Average size is plenty good enough.

 

You can get special designed ones for anal