I am dating this boi. I just don't know anyone who has ever dated a hardcore stud or a stone butch. He is pretty much a man. I am a lesbian all the way. I am not attracted to males sexually or to penis. He is an exception. I've never had a penis down there....I'm scared! I don't know what to think. I mean I already talked to him and told him that I don't care about what label I am by being in a relationship with him, but I've already lost a relationship because of sexual limitations in the past, and I'm scared that will happen again. I am in love with this person and I don't want my insecurities to end this really really good thing we have going on... I know he wasn't born with the penis, but it is still a penis and he made it clear that this is all we are going to touch as far as his genitals go. So I can't finger him or go in his vjj or nothing like that. he is a straight male butch. So he says he likes blowjobs and that he will wear protection while being intimate. Um....I don't know what that will be like. What are some challenges that trans people go through while dating someone like me, a femme lesbian who is not attracted to males, never slept with a man? I am attracted to masculine women but not men., per se? I don't know what to expect. I am in love with him and I want a long term relationship with him. I know he has a vagina and everything but he is a guy. I won't use she or her when referring to him. Could that be the reason why I can go through with this? While I could fall in love with a guy I couldn't ever bring myself to sleep with a man, but with him I might? Am Imaking sense at all? :eusa_doh: I don't know if it will hurt or how to do it? Tried to watch straight porn to see if...yeah no. It looks painful to have some "penis" down there if all I have been with is women. I know it is tmi but I know what fingers feel like in my vjj but I never had a dildo down there. Will it hurt? How much and willit bleed????
I won't lie, I had to read this about 3 times to figure out what you were talking about but I think I get it now... Thing is, if you're a lesbian, I think it's unlikely you're going to be able to FORCE yourself to be OK with having sex with a guy...which is exactly what you are trying to do. You would have 2 options, either take them as the man they are which is going to be difficult for you, or pretend they are female which invalidates them and is horrible for both of you and by the sounds of things you really don't want to do that! You did ask "What are some challenges that trans people go through while dating someone like me"...stop thinking about it like that. I mean you're a lesbian in a relationship with a guy and you're trying your hardest not to invalidate your partner by pretending he is something he isn't...you know, we can hardly blame you for that! If you like the guy then you really need to discuss with him. Tell him what you are comfortable with and see if he's OK with that. Then you can decide if the relationship will work. Just don't beat yourself up about it too much,
I've never been in a situation like this before, but I can tell you that it is possible to have a relationship with him. I had a girl at my school who was a lesbian, but she found a great transguy that she met, and they've been together for over a year. I'm sure there have been some difficulties with their relationship, but if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, I guess. Sorry I can't really give any advice on this. Hope I helped somehow.
