Just had first anal sex now a few questions

There's almost always a bit of residual poo. If your bowel movements are healthy and regular, it shouldn't be an issue.

 

With regards to the full sensation, that's just your body naturally reacting to having something up there and it's telling your brain that you have to shift. With practice you won't even notice that sensation - it gets overtaken by a much more enjoyable sensation (as I'm sure you noticed).

It's going to be messy but as long as you go to the loo before you start doing anything it should be ok. If you know that you're going to be seeing him then it could also be an option to try and grab a shower as close to when you're seeing him as you can so that you can clean up down there a bit as well.

Also, eat lots of high fibre foods - it'll make things less "sticky" down below I find...

 

I am glad things went well (especially for the first time!), and it sounds like you have a very understanding and excellent partner!

It would have been caused by air being pushed in during sex, not an actual fart. It is quite common - I believe it also happens with vaginal sex.

Your dicks are longer than your fingers which is why they managed to reach some residual poo that your fingers couldn't.

Poo only moves into the rectum when your body is ready to get rid of it; otherwise the rectum will be empty. The small amount your encountered the first time would have just been residue left behind from your last toilet trip - once that was removed the first time you had sex then no more would have moved into the rectum during the next few hours, which is why you were completely clean the second time.

Yeah you just need to get used to the feeling and learn to ignore it. The easiest way to do this is with a dildo or other toy, by yourself, so you can spend as long or short as your like without having to inconvenience a partner. It's mostly a psychological thing - you've just got to train your brain into associating that feeling during sex with pleasure rather than the desire to go for a poo.

 

So when we stopped the first time because the condom came out with some feces on, we didn't actually need to stop really because it had already removed the feces?

Yeah, probably!

Also me and my bf did try out cowboy first to give the person being penetrated first more control but we found that position really difficult to get the dick in. It kept missing the hole does anybody know how to make that position easier?

Have the top (the person doing the penetrating) lie flat on their back. Have the bottom (the person being penetrated) sit on their crotch, facing their partner, with their knees on either side of the top and their legs underneath them (i.e. sitting like this, but with your legs apart to make room for your partner's body between them).
From this position you can easily raise yourself up a bit so your weight is on your knees, and then you can reach behind and guide your partner's penis in with your hand before lowering yourself back down. After it is inserted you can change the position of your legs however you want.

Although later we did try missionary which was ok but I found it really difficult to be able to move in and out of him. Does anybody know how to make that position easier?

Try putting a pillow or two under the bottom's butt so it raises it up a bit and makes it easier to access .

 

ok darling! I want first to say congrats on getting your cherry popped. Sounds like you had lots of fun!

Now there's a whole preparation that goes in it to have practically "clean" anal sex. Yes it tedious but knowing you're clean is and technically being clean results even in more fun.
People go around it in different ways, but here's a general overview.

-diet
-immodium
-douche

I think in order to have a quiet mind, at least the last two are necessary.

 

My first time was mostly just uncomfortable. But after a few times, bottoming became so much more enjoyable, and now I love it. There's a novelty to being submissive that never goes away. It is so much fun, and so sexy, to feel wanted and needed like that. So keep plugging away, so to speak. You're both being incredibly patient and attentive, so you're on the right track!

As for your questions about positions... Try REVERSE cowgirl. My boyfriend didn't much care for cowgirl the first few times, but when I turned around to face his feet, it was a night and day difference. He went in easier, stayed in better, was easier to "ride", and he said it even felt better. So maybe give that a try.

Doggy is also a staple of anal sex. Many say it's impersonal and the position you go to when you just want to get off real quick, but I've found it to be very intimate. My boyfriend wraps his arms around my chest and pulls me back into him, nibbles and breathes into my ears, bites my neck and back... he totally drives me crazy when we're in doggy! It may not be the position you want to start with because it gives the top full reign of his penetration so he'll probably go in as deep as he can before you're ready to take all of him, but it's a great second or third or fourth position in my experience.

As for missionary, I agree with the pillow suggestion. The key is to angle your pelvis up toward the ceiling so he has easier access, which will allow him to thrust deeper without popping out. Also, you could try putting your legs over his shoulders; you'll probably lose your kisses, which is one of the charms of missionary (the intimacy), but it'll make the actual sex easier.

Eventually you'll both get a feel for subtle changes in angle, even to a tiny degree sometimes, that'll make sex easier and more enjoyable. And since you both bottom for each other, these tips actually apply to both of you depending on who is doing what.

Good luck, and have fun!

 

Whenever we thought it was lined up perfectly the bottom would start lowering himself down n then we would find out no it's not in. It doesn't help that you can't really see down there lol. Maybe we were doing something else wrong though so I guess we just try again next time n see what happens.

Make sure you are guiding it in with your hand. If you grip their penis so the head is just poking out the top of your fist, you can line it up with your butthole relatively easily. You should be able to feel where it is without having to look.
Facing the other way as DangerAlex said is also worth trying.

 

Ah that must where we were going wrong because when I was trying to penetrate I was trying to guide my dick into his butthole. So next time I will get him to guide it into his butthole. And hopefully it will work better.

Yeah that can work too but if you're in a position where the top can't see the butthole then it's usually easier to have the bottom guide it in with their hand.


The more often you do it the better you will be (this goes for everything in life!), and the more used to all the feelings you will become. If you want to practice without him there then you always have the option of your fingers, or dildos/toys.

 

I'm by no means unfit, but i was just wondering with reverse cowgirl or cowgirl in general, wouldn't one become tired? I get pretty tired just squatting on my knees let alone bouncing up and down.

 

You may or may not get tired, it really depends on the person. I find I can ride my boyfriend for a good twenty minutes without getting tired, but usually we'll switch positions before then. He really likes reverse cowgirl, he says it feels really good, so if we stay in that position he'll cum in like 10-15 minutes or maybe even less, and we like sex to last a little longer than that.

So I guess what I'm saying is: You might get tired, or you might not. If you do, you can always switch positions. The good thing about this position is that it helps you to get used to bottoming and to "stretch" a little bit by giving the bottom control of the depth and speed of penetration. Once you ride him for like 5 or 10 minutes, you can switch to any other position without any discomfort for the most part.

Hope this helps!

PS. As far as guiding him in, I always do the guiding when I bottom. In my experience, it's just easier that way as I can usually direct him into me quite easily. I tend to know where the entry point is more readily than he would. So just a thought, but maybe you could always have the bottom guide the top.