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did it for the first time with a guy

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Shy825, Apr 30, 2014.

  1. Shy825

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    Hi
    Not sure if this is the right place to post but I just felt like talking about my first time.

    I recently came out to myself and today I finally hooked up with a guy. We met online and spoke for a briefly over the course of 3 months or so. But I still didn't know his name until tonight lol.

    I went to his house, we chatted, then he put some porn on and we started feeling each other.
    I tried to top him but I was too soft for some reason and couldn't get it in. So we just played.

    I did use a condom when trying to top him.

    But for playing we didn't and he sucked me without a condom on too...I dunno why but I just feel a bit anxious about this bit. I am sure he's clean anyway but he had some of his own pre-cum on his hands when he was playing with my bit. Is this nothing to be concerned about?

    I dunno how I feel right now, he was a nice guy and I am glad that I finally did it. Its like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I was too afraid for so long and was getting depressed about it.

    anyway just thought I'd share my first time and any advice or comments would be helpful thanks.
    Sorry if it seems silly, like loads of people have sex at an early age but I just turned 27 and only just done it so its a big deal to me especially since I only started feeling comfortable about my sexual orientation.

    Just like to add I also use to have OCD and was very afraid of other peoples germs lol. Like I'd open public doors with my feet, elbows etc and washed my hands all the time. Even working in a shop I was afraid to touch people's hands when giving them change.
    But I'm over that now and getting intimate with someone proved that too.

    thanks for reading :slight_smile:
     
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    Nice one for having the balls (pun intended) to go for it and try it. You were probably just really nervous which got in the way of you completely relaxing. Re the other concern, there's always a risk but I doubt you'll have anything to worry about. If you are going to be having sexual relations with other guys though it's worth going and getting tested at a sexual health clinic. Better to be safe than sorry after all. Plus if you're meeting new people, ask them if they're clean before meeting with them. Don't run risks with this sort of thing :slight_smile:

    Hope this helps
     
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    So how was the sex? :slight_smile:
     
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    i feel so happy for you, and I am sure he is clean, and you can always get checked, rite? And knowing that I am not the only one who loses their virginity late in life, I mean in 4 years I will b 27, hopefully by then I would have lost my v-card. cuz I have done other stuff w/ guys, but not the anal part.
     
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    Thanks for the replies :slight_smile: Yeah I should have asked him if he was clean directly? I sort of mentioned it and he said he got tested ages ago. So I don't think he knows either. He said he has been with like 5 guys and the last time he met someone was like 12 months ago.
    I was surprised he had that thing called "poppers" though. A small jar that he sniffed to relax him. Probably just something he likes to use all the time like when he's masturbating with himself. Hopes it not a sign that he's a shady character.

    I havent spoken to him since but I have his number so might text him. Or when I next see him online.

    I have been doing some reading online and apparently mutual maturation is not a risk. As pre-cum/semen would be outside the body and any potential virus would be rendered useless due to changes in temperature and light etc.
    So even though his pre-cum got rubbed onto my penis I am safe. This is all according to the internet.

    But to set my mind at ease I am going to get tested online. A clinic sends you a kit through the post and you return it to their lab. Fast and discreet service.
    But I have to wait like 4-6 weeks before I can do a test that will be reliable. I just hope I'll be able to get on with my life whilst I wait...