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Masturbation...

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by theaterboy, Jun 10, 2014.

  1. theaterboy

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    So I do the deed about once a day to once every two days. When I do it, it takes me maybe a minute before I orgasm. I would like it to take longer. I have heard of people who orgasm really quickly but I don't know if this is it...Is there any way I can make it last longer?
     
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    Depends what you are doing I guess...

    If you're going 'full speed' so to speak from the beginning, and just going with it, then yeah it'll probably happen really fast...

    Just slow down a bit, see if you can find other parts of you to 'enjoy' and see if that helps.
     
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    Also, try to stop or slow down when you are reaching climax. Start slow.
     
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    Pretty common problem, particularly among teens. Your sexual energy and sensitivity can be such that pretty much the slightest stimulation can lead to arousal and orgasm.

    One of the best things you can do is to take a mindful approach. (And this involves not using porn.) Block out 15 or 30 minutes, spend the first 2 or 3 minutes focusing on your breath and being aware of your body, not just your penis, and not touching any part of your body. When you do touch your body, don't go for your penis, and instead touch your hips or chest or abdomen or legs very slowly and lightly, breathe slowly and feel the sensation of your hand on your body.

    When you do touch your penis, use the same sort of slow, light, mindful touch and barely touch it, and let your mind process what the touch sensation feels like.

    If you take this whole process slowly and thoughtfully, you'll be able to develop sensitivity to your whole body, and the level of arousal you are feeling. When you get close to orgasm, if it's sooner than you want, stop and move back to touching your hips, abdomen, and chest, breathe, and feel what your body feels like.

    This approach is a very short description of a process that is a mixture of meditation, breathwork, mindfulness, and tantric practice. If you practice it, you can make your masturbation process take 10 or 15 or 45 minutes, and with practice, the quality of the orgasm and ejaculation will be very, very different than what you're used to.

    The technique is also useful in helping couples be mindful and have deeper and more intimate sexual experiences.