So lately I have been having problems ejaculation when I masterbate. It takes about 3-4 mins at one time. I never has this before when I used to masterbate to males. The feeling of arousal is still there, everything's there just it takes much longer. I thought it was because I thought of women while I did it, but it's the same thing with males & gay porn. I don't know what to do The only difference is that I have been masterbating much much more frequently lately. I used to masterbate once a day every few days as of now I masterbate 2 times a day occasionally even 3. Maybe that's te problem I don't know Please help I get aroused/turned on/erections easily but it's harder to masterbate
Just to clarify, you are having trouble ejaculating until 3-4 minutes into masturbating? If that is the case, it sounds like you are fine. Depending on your age, it could take MUCH MUCH longer. Typically for me, I've found that because of my age, I can still do it quickly but to enjoy it, takes much longer. 30-45 minutes typically. You might embrace slowing down and enjoying it rather than just "pounding one out." It will also take longer if you do it more often daily for some people. You can simply try not doing it for a day or two and see if that helps. Are you under any other stress? Has anything else changed in your habits work/school/etc/porn? It could be that you've become immune to porn and it begins to desensitize you and isn't as effective as it used to be. You might try turning it off and masturbating without it. For some thing helps reset that.
The only thing that has changed is I have more stress I started doing it to women fantasies etc instead of males And doin it much more often But I can't ejaculate the same with male fantasies as well so the second reason isn't the problem. When I do it,it feels so good but it takes a whole To come out. And my hand starts to hurt when I do it which is an indication that is takes too long I never had this before
Stress can play a huge role and that is why I mention it. But the times you are saying aren't unreasonable or even slightly abnormal. Each person is different. You also don't mention your age, but I'll guess teens. Most guys take As far as women vs men, I would say use what fantasies you like and don't worry about one vs the other. There is nothing to say you are gay because you masturbate to men or straight because you masturbate to women. But if you experience a stronger orgasm with one vs the other, that is totally normal. Just means one is more stimulating for you than the other. again, totally normal stuff. As for your hand hurting... Slow down, don't grip so hard and/or switch hands.. Short of that, maybe do some hand stretching before you start. But truthfully you sound like a normal guy....
So go back to doing it to males if that arouses you faster. And maybe do it a little less often. Problem solved.
Hi Jason It can take me from between 10 minutes, to half an hour, before I reach the threshold of full orgasm. Don't worry about it taking a few minutes. In fact, isn't it nicer to really draw out one's sexual pleasure, rather than making it a hurried act? Just one more bit of advice: I don't think it's healthy to ejaculate too many times in one day. If you happen to be young and strong, you might not feel this, but the male body actually uses a lot of energy and nutrient to manufacture semen. It's not cheap stuff, biologically speaking. So spending too much of it can drain one of energy, although I must admit that when I was young, I only noticed this issue if I came when I was sick, which I strongly advise against.
Hey I'd say cut down the frequency. Doing it too often leaves you no time to recover and regain your sex drive. So the next time you do it you feel less aroused. Try waiting a day or two until you feel really aroused and see how it goes
The more frequently you masturbate, the less semen you expel. So take a day or two off and you'll have a stronger ejaculation.
