Hi Guys, First sorry for the lame title, I am tired and being ridiculous. Anyway, I am in a year long relationship with my boyfriend, we are a white/latino couple and I live in central america with him, speak fluent spanish etc. We have houses, business, etc together. Our relationship is truly really great, for the first time in my life I have no relationship stress or problems. However, I do have an obsession with porn and masturbation. My partner is not a big fan of this, he likes porn but hates that I masturbate because he says it's something I do without him. We are both very comfortable together and young, I never really had a dating or swinging phase during my life so I am still a bit wild. We started to talk about the option of a three way. The first time I mentioned it he did not seem to enjoy the idea so I let it go. A few days ago he mentioned it to me, jokingly and said we should ask some random guy we both thought was hot but it was a joke. Of course, later it was not a joke and we discussed the idea. We have come to the conclusion that we want to do it. I have no reserves. he doesn't. I dont feel jealousy will be an issue, we both like the idea. I want to explore with someone else sexually but not emotionally, but it's not selfish, I wouldn't "cheat" behind his back, It's not something I need to do. I figure, if we are both on the same page and we are clear with the other person involved then really there is nothing wrong with it. After all, it's our life right? As a gay couple by society standards we are already in the red zone. But I am here because I feel like I need to talk to someone or someones who can comment their opinion. I have no one locally I could tell about this so I am here to ask, what do you all think of a threeway? Is it really a bad idea? I dont want to invite someone to a threeway to spice up our relationship or solve our problems. We are fine. I am not bored with my partner either. I just like the idea of being able to experience sex (nothing more) with someone else. Plus, the idea of my BF doing it with someone else turns me on alot. No idea why. Guess I am anti-jealous. So what do you all think? Am I nuts?
If both of you are comfortable with it I see no problem. They can be a hell of a lot of fun, but this is coming from someone who has always been the third wheel. I have never been part of a couple inviting a third over.
@Redneck thanks for the input! I am actually kind of curious as to how it will even work. I have honestly never ever been in a threesome so ... I am kinda like hmmm ...
It sounds like you really really want to do it and as you said, there's nothing really stopping you apart from finding the right person to do it with (which can be a challenge in itself). From personal experience though, some fantasies are best to stay fantasies... If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Just my opinion.
