Okay, so I have been looking for answers to these issues on the internet for a while now because I'm just not comfortable talking to someone irl about this topic and I just think the questions can better be answered here. So to start of I am a guy and I'm a really early internet user, I started using the internet really early and that also means I found porn early leading to discovering masturbation early. I found out about porn at age 7-8 and found out (properly) about masturbation at age 9-10. So putting my age aside I've masturbated for quite some time. Now, I have 2 issues i want help with. 1. When i masturbate I have to stretch out my legs to the point where it's uncomfortable and almost hurts but I never really feel any severe pain, so this basically means that my ideal masturbation position is laying down on a bed etc. I really have no explanation why I do this but i just have to, if I don't I really don't feel anything extraordinary, this makes it hard for me to masturbate at my computer because I have to rest my legs on something to be able to stretch them out without having to hold them in the air. If anyone knows anything about this please reply, is it something others experience or is it just a really weird fetish thing i have? 2.Sometimes when I masturbate and get really close to climaxing (i know climaxing probably isn't the proper word but I'm gonna use it anyways) my hand/arm gets into some weird paralyzed state, I cant move it at the pace I want to and I usually have to switch hands or help move my right arm with my left hand. This never happens at any other time, only when i'm really close to climaxing, this is really weird and annoying and I would more than rather want it to stop happening. Again, if anyone knows anything please reply and again is it just me or does this happen to others too? And please keep the age issue away from this thread, I know its unusual and weird and inappropriate to start watching porn and masturbate at such young age but please just leave it. Sorry for the ultra long post F
Actually I kind of get a similar thing sometimes. But for me it's this weird numbing feeling in my hand followed by stomach/pelvic area violently twitching. It didn't start happening for me until about two months ago but I twitch really violently after climaxing and like I said my hand and sometimes my whole arm goes completely numb. My vision will blur and I'll get that feeling you get when you sit for too long and when you stand up you see stars-- you know? I'm not sure what it is, either-- I went to the doctor's office and they said I'm perfectly fine. It just might be some sort of chemical reaction. Are you on any medications? Like, specifically, psychiatric meds? I am, and I know it can mess with that kind of stuff.
Maybe you could get a vibrating hole (if they exist)? Or use your hips instead of your arms? Vibrators are good.
Those vibrating hole things aren't very good, but there are mounts you can get for a type of 'hole' that allow a sort of hands free masturbatory experience. They even make one you can holster a tablet onto and watch your favorite videos while doing so!
OK, there are a couple of different issues here. First, I'm going to talk about the arm sensations. People often don't understand that orgasm and ejaculation aren't the same thing. You can orgasm without ejaculating, and ejaculate without orgasm. So it's important to understand this in the context of your experience. For some people, orgasm is an extremely intense, full-body experience in that every part of your body can experience it. It's different for everyone, but it can include tingling, muscle tightening, very intense emotional sense, rapid breathing, and full-body contractions. (Everyone has the ability to improve their orgasms and make them more intense and enjoyable, but that's an entirely different discussion.) Additionally, orgasm, unlike ejaculation, can last 30-60 seconds or longer, and can precede ejaculation by 10 to 30 seconds and last another 30-60 seconds (sometimes longer) after that. So my guess is that most of what you're experiencing is simply an intense orgasm... which is a good thing, you just need to understand and learn to control it. Typically, but not always, these sorts of intense orgasms occur after you've been "edging" (bringing yourself close to ejaculation but not actually ejaculating) for an extended period.) But some people are able to naturally have very powerful orgasms without any extended practices. It would also be helpful to know your current age, as age does, to some extent, enter into the sort of sensitivity and the nature of the orgasmic experience that is happening. On the issue of positioning your legs, I don't think there's any real concern here. You may have simply conditioned yourself to experience this (and this may be contributing to the intensity of your orgasms), so you may be able to slowly, over time, retrain yourself to be able to have good orgasms without by simply slowly conditioning your responses... very gradually changing, very slightly each time, how much you stretch your legs so that you're able to retain the intensity of the experience with your legs in a more normal position. Also, without getting into the appropriateness of watching porn, I would say that watching porn on the regular can essentially stifle your natural sensitivity and can negatively impact the quality of sexual experiences you have with a partner later in life. This isn't earth shattering stuff, but it could be really beneficial to you to spent a month or so masturbating without using any porn, and instead relying on your own fantasies in your head. If you do that, I think, over time, you'll end up having a very different, and potentially very satisfying, experience.
Thanks Chip, your post was very professional and helpful and it also answered a lot of questions, thanks ^^ My age right now is 13 (i know still young or (too young) but yeah) Actually i have recently started masturbating without porn, i would say that only 1 of 20 times i masturbate is while watching porn, because of 1, I've been on the internet for so long and seen it all (disturbing and non disturbing) and 2 is because of the issue with the legs, because of the uncomfortable position i usually don't masturbate at the computer anymore.
