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I find it really hard to keep on living

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Beware Of You, Sep 1, 2014.

  1. Beware Of You

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    So I am a gay guy 24, with a decent job and I have been somewhat successful.

    The thing is I find it hard to keep on going, there are times when I just want to give up. The only thing that stops me is that I couldn't do it to my boyfriend and my parents.

    I find it hard to go out and meet people, talk to new people etc.
     
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    You need to find something you're passionate about. Something that motivates you and that you love. A reason to keep going that's better than feeling that if you pass away, that people will be upset and hurt by it. They still will, but you need something more than that. The key to this is getting out of your comfort zone. I'm not saying it will be easy, but as long as you don't give up and keep getting up after you have been knocked down, then it honestly will be worth it in the end. It may take some time, but you need to experience the joys of life.

    Let me ask you something. Are you bored? Do you think you would still feel this way if there was something in your life that you truly love doing? Something fun that you're passionate about. You say that you have a decent job and that you are somewhat successful at it. Is this job somewhere that you feel you belong at? Is it a job that you always wanted to do? 24 isn't too old to change that. I know there are some people who disagree, but it's never too late to turn your life around regardless of age. I know the feeling of not wanting to live anymore. I also know the feeling of living in hell for many, many years. What got me out of that hell and suicidal mindset is a little different than what will most likely get you out of yours but passing away is the worst option you could choose. All you have to do is find something in your life that really get's you going and that allows you to truly have the life you want. Only you will know what that is though. Don't be afraid to take some risks now and then as long as you're smart about it. Get a little (or a lot) crazy if you need too and figure out what that is. Whether it ends up being something big or small doesn't matter. Don't live for other people, live for yourself. You can get through this and have the life you want, but not if you don't try and not if you don't keep getting back up every time you get knocked down. If you don't give up, then you will realize that the end result, once you reach it, will be worth it in the end.
     
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    Hey..

    The social withdrawal and social anxiety alone are likely due to depression. But I think you know that (if I remember some of your other posts correctly?)

    Having a boyfriend, decent job and being successful is all very well but no antidote to this tricky disease.

    So .. where are you with discussing this through with a good doctor, or therapist because that is the first thing that comes to mind.

    xx
     
  4. AtheistWorld

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    I feel the same way. Suicide isn't an answer. Thus I am without any solution.
     
  5. Oddish

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    Me too. All day erryday, mang.
     
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    Hey

    I can relate to how you're feeling. It's hard when you reach a point where you feel like you've hit a brick wall, but in any way I can, I try to find a way to try and break down the wall. Usually I try and do something to take my mind off things, socialising with people I'm close with is the most helpful for me. This has been hard recently, as I've been posted to a remote area for training. So my support networks are a little harder to reach. As someone who has had problems with social anxiety in the past, it can often be difficult, especially when in a place where you feel there are limited people who you share commonality with. I find positives in what I have though, and flow with that, and I also try to recognise the thought patterns that can put me in an anxious or down state. It's important to recognise how you feel too, and being open and talking to someone, whether that be family or a medical professional, that can be a big help too