It seems that I have an addiction to porn and I'd like to stop it. I watch it whenever I can as a way of sexual release, and whenever I'm bored since it feels good. Unfortunately it's messing with my mind as I am still in the processing of discovering more about my sexual orientation. My goal in the end is to find out if the porn I watch is just some fantasy that I dig, or if it really means something. On a side note, I've attempted to stop watching porn but only succeeded for a week. I'll end up showing a scene in my head and end up masturbating to it. The feeling of ejaculation is so good that I just want to get it on with either gender. Advice, anyone?
Do you put off being with friends or family to watch porn? Do you skip work to watch porn? Do you spend an excessive amount of money on porn? Your answers to those questions are most likely no. Honestly, what you're describing is very normal for us young folks. Our sex drives are maniacal sometimes. If you feel like you're depending too much on porn for your masturbation, do it without porn a few times a week. Use your imagination. You don't have to quit watching porn entirely. Watching porn to help determine your sexuality isn't always the most accurate method. Like you mentioned, your body can see something sexual and get off to that. Try using your imagination. Think about the hottest person, male or female, doing sexual things with you. Try to analyze whether it's a male or female fantasy. Even this may not be accurate because good porn videos may come to mind when you're trying to use your pure imagination, but it may help point you in the right direction. Another test I use is to follow where your eyes go. If you're out and about and you see a hot guy, are your eyes checking him out? Do you check out women the same way? Anyway - don't worry so much about porn unless it's really affecting your life.
I also have the same problem and i'm battling the same thing minus figuring out my sexuality . Now what you need to do is stop masturbating it's hard but you have to . Maybe at least for a few months . that way the effects of porn wares off on you . I'll provide some helpful links , I've been going to some sites reading up on it . This site explains all about porn addiction http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/understanding_porn_addiction
TJ - I've imagined doing it with older guys as a sexual desire, because I find their body attractive, but that's about it. I won't go further into discovering their personalities simply because it doesn't feel right. It's not because of societal rejection or whatnot, but I just don't see myself ending up happy in a LTR with a man. LTR with women are more likely for me since I don't masturbate to women the same way, but they do get my attention and I know that I feels right. It's not always about the sexual attraction, right? Stocking - Thanks for the link.
Porn is a hard habit to break, but if totally free from it I bet you your life will improve. A negative effect that porn brings is that whoever your next gf/bf is, their body won't be up to your standards. Or sexual exploration. Or you can't be fully satisfied with just one partner for the rest of your life. One practical way to combat porn is to remove the source. Delete the videos, don't sleep with your computer in the same room, and fill your extra time with somethng else.
Porn is definitely a tough habit. I've been struggling with it for a few years now, I've managed to stave off addiction for the most part, but sometimes I binge. Limit your internet or computer usage in private places. Put your PC or use your tablet only in open areas of the house or public places. Get a very interesting hobby, start working out more (this one works great because you're too tired to masturbate) and consider placing some porn-blocking software on your device. Get really into a videogame is also a good one. Hang out with some friends more and you won't feel lonely and like you need to jerk it and watch porn. That last one helped me a lot because my porn habit was partly due to loneliness. Hope this helps. Stay strong my friend
It's not always about the sexual attraction, you're right. But it's always something to consider. If the idea of being with a man doesn't seem right, then you've got decent reason in thinking you're not meant to be with a man. But also be aware that, for many people realizing their homosexuality, the acceptability, the 'feeling right', of a romantic relationship with the same sex comes second to the idea of a sexual relationship. You've been raised your entire life to think about being with a woman, getting married, having kids, and growing old with a woman. It's not so easy to just turn it around to being with a guy. Sex, on the other hand, is a short-term act with someone and is a desire you can easily recognize because your penis literally tells you that you're interested. When I was in 7th-8th grade, I considered myself bisexual but I definitely couldn't imagine having a LTR with a man. It just didn't seem right. But as I grew older, talked with people, most importantly met my boyfriend, I realized that it wasn't so hard to imagine a life with a man. I'm not suggesting that's the case with you, I'm just offering information for you to also take into consideration.
