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Time before ejaculation in homemade pornography

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Alt, Oct 25, 2014.

  1. Alt

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    I know pornography is not a good indicator of sex or what are reasonable flags to raise during the activity. Due to it I have tried looking at homemade pornographic videos but it seems that in most the top takes about 3 minutes of actual penetration n order to ejaculate. This seems to me to be quite short and not worth the hassle of getting undress, foreplay, lube, stretching all for just 3 minutes, if at that!, of penetrative sex. I have to cycle through <15 videos just to ejaculate, it seems terribly unbalanced.

    How does the bottom even gain any enjoyment from such a minuscule amount of action? Is this the norm in sexual relations between homosexual males? Also, are there really only 3-4 measly drop of cum at the end of an orgasm?

    I am only 19 and I've yet to even hug or hold hand with someone of the same sex who is not a family member. It's just that if penetrative sex is like that, I can't see why people would bother doing it.
     
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    Hello, first off you can not go by the porn you see because you don' t know if they have stopped the film or when they actually started it .I can tell you that for most people when the have penetrative sex for the first time it does not last very long and that's OK because over time they learn how to control when they are going to finish . Also it feels a lot different than just masturbating it is a whole new level of pleasure ! Some men ejaculate very small amounts and some do large amounts again porn is not a good source of information .Just remember if you have sex and ejaculate then start over really soon it takes longer to achieve you goal and you will ejaculate less than the time before your body has to "rebuild " the supply if you get my meaning . I hope you don't give up on sex just yet wither its with a man or woman its all up to you ! If you ever want to talk just let me know I will be glad to :slight_smile:
     
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    Pretty much stick to the premise of your intro sentence.....
     
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    Yeah, I second this...
     
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    I third this.

    Porn's not that good of an informational tool about some realities of sex.
     
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    Except for one post, I have recieved no other information on the subject. If pornography is not suitable, even the homemade one that is made by actual people and not produced, then can someone please answer the questions I have?
     
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    It is important to understand that studio made porn is quite different to homemade porn. People who film their own porn clips are using basic equipment (sometimes very basic equipment) and they don't have the benefit of editing and production facilities to enhance and improve the final cut.

    In addition to my comments above, there are a number of other reasons why homemade porn clips may seem unsatisfying. It could be that the couple have been indulging in a lot of sexual foreplay to get themselves in the mood before filming begins, so once 'cameras roll' they are so horny that it just happens and they blow.

    It could be that one participant is more reluctant than the other and it spoils the mood (in other words they want a quicky to get it over with).

    The low ejaculate volume could be due to a general lack of arousal or insufficient time to re-load after an earlier session or wank.

    There are a number of other possibilities besides these, but the main point to remember is that porn (be it studio made or homemade) cannot be taken as true indicator of sexual relationships. Without going into details, my personal experience is more satisfying than a 3 minute quicky with the webcam rolling in the background.

    Hope this helps to answer some of your questions more fully. :slight_smile:
     
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    The duration of intercourse can be based on a number of factors. It is definitely possible to have extremely short sessions and even be satisfied by them, but I would say that it is true that most would be more satisfied through being active longer than a couple minutes. Additionally, everything that leads up to intercourse often takes a large chunk of time and therefore makes even a short span of penetration more enjoyable. Size of ejaculate varies heavily based on the length of time since the previous orgasm.

    The most important thing is communication. You will figure out the amount of time that you generally need and work with your partner to make sure you both are content when the time comes. It is also important to remember that average masturbation duration is much different than average sex duration. Not only is it much less stimulating, but most people tend to draw out their masturbation sessions longer in order to get the most out of them rather than rush through things.
     
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    Thank you! I didn't know that foreplay could take such a large chunk of time. Thinking that they were not enjoying themselves was bringing my own enjoying down, as well as my hopes for future relations.
     
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    There are people who are very happy with 4 or 5 minutes of penetration and people who go for hours, and everything in between. And there are people who have enormous ejaculation volume and people who have very small volume... Though often that can happen if the person has recently ejaculated, perhaps before the camera was turned on.

    Also, it's not uncommon for one person to be much more into filming the activities and the other one not so much, which can certainly effect arousal, time to orgasm, and everything else. In short, take any video you see, professional or self-filmed, with a grain of salt.