Ladies who masturbate, I really need some help :(

Well, I've found that sometimes I just get too wet down there. Try wiping yourself with a tissue around your clitoris and making sure your fingers are dry.
Also, try some good porn. If normal stuff isn't working, branch out into anime and other different genres. Sometimes it's what's needed to 'flip the switch' and make it a little better.

And don't tell anyone that I commented on here, please...

 

Have you tried using a showerhead?

 

Ooh, find yourself a fetish and go have a field day with it. Wait, HOW DO I KNOW THIS, IM THIRTEEN!

 

I find direct stimulation too painful as well. What I do is I tend to masturbate over my underwear usually or over the top of the outer labia. The stimulation isn't direct and I find that I can usually only orgasm this way, as I tend to get too wet to maintain a proper motion if I directly touch my clitoris

 

Do you do anything to get you in the mood before you start ?

 

You're using mind stimulation along with physical stimulation, yeah?

 

Would that help you?
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anony...alth/153703-hitting-g-spot-small-hands.html#3
Concerning fantasies, I would stick to the positive ones... and avoid movie porn..

There are good vibrators available...
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anony...o-thats-1-5-2-wide-safe-first-timer-2.html#30

 

Imagine that it's someone else doing it to you. That's the only way it works for me.

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Imagine that someone's doing it to you. That gets me turned on.

 

Your not a porn watcher are you ?

 

I'm not female, but as I understand it, being relaxed and worry-free is essential here. I suggest for the time being truly and sincerely not worrying about getting an orgasm at all. I really mean it. Just treat it as an exercise in enjoyment, enjoyment of exploring your own body, pleasuring it, without 'aiming' for any goal at all.

This is a little relevant to me, actually. As a Bisexual / gender androgynous kind of guy, over the last few months I discovered the joy of being penetrated, and I found that the gentle stimulation of the prostate - a gland that parallels the 'G-spot' in women - was able to take me to states of arousal that were not so much 'goal-driven', but rather were like a 'zone' I got in to, in which masturbation verged on becoming an emotional experience. Many, many times I pleasured myself without ejaculating at the end at all. The journey itself was becoming better than having a 'big bang' at the end. (Ok, I was doing it Tantrically, in which one attempts to draw the pleasure up into the body, rather than letting it spill out along with the seed - which as a woman, you need not worry about, as you don't lose any vital force if you do orgasm. But I share this to help explain what I experienced). Anyway, the relevance for you, is to let go of the idea of a goal. Just resolve not to have any goal at all, other than exploring your own body's erogenous zones. Be leisurely about it. And just enjoy whatever pleasure does arise, without the pressure of wondering "will this expand into full orgasm?" Pah, let go of this totally! Just enjoy the journey of exploration itself, be adventurous, learn to use the 'g spot', and, for now at least, abandon the idea of any final 'goal' to it. This, imho, is how you will be able to relax and not feel pressured. And don't worry, one day, when the time is right, it will of course just 'happen' of it's own accord. Until then, I think trying for it is the wrong approach, though.

Hope some of this helped.

 

According to what you say, I would stick to penetration. You're in a minority of women (about 20%) who can orgasm from penetration alone. Most of the time, these women have a hard time or can't orgasm from direct clitoris stimulation. Personally, I'm part of the 80%. I can orgasm from clitoris stimulation. Pretty easily actually. But you trying to have an orgasm from your clitoris would be like asking me to orgasm from just penetration. I can't. I tried several times, several techniques, but it doesn't work. It's fine. It's normal. Most of the time, it's how it is. Women can easily come on way, but can't or have a hard time the other way. You know how your body works, now the question is, why aren't you able to come the way you usually do? Well, if you can't figure it out on your own, I would talk to your doctor about it. It seems to be a physicial problem maybe, so he/she would be the best to help you with that.

But if you're still unsure whether you can come from clit stimulation, here are a few tips. Most women rub their clit in circles, it's the best way to achieve orgasm. You can try ups and downs or side to side also, but usually circles work the best because it stimulates every side of your clit. You can try thinking about fantasies or watch porn. You can also try your vibrator again, who knows. The clit is usually pretty sensitive too, so if you touch it too much, it loses sensitivity. So it would be best to avoid touching it for a good while and wait until you're really horny to try it. It would increase your chances. But my advice would be, don't try too hard. At some point you need to let go. Maybe you can't orgasm that way and you'll just have to accept it. It's perfectly normal! No worries.

 

Oh, if you're taking meds, you might just have found your answer. If something changed in your meds, dosage or anything else, then I'm 99% sure it's that. A LOT of meds have an impact in that area (sexual) and can totally give you a hard time orgasming or make it impossible. They can reduce your libido, you know, they can have all sorts of effects. I would talk to your doctor about this idea and if he/she still insist on the "maturing" thing, I would remind him/her that if it was that, the change would've been progressive. But now, you said it was more a sudden change, so that leads me to believe it's your meds. Anyway, I hope it'll help you hun